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Old 10-25-2010, 09:34 PM
 
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Ive lived in NJ all my life but went away for college. But now that I have graduated coming back to NJ is like going back into time because seriously nothing has changed. My old friends are still doing the same exact thing as they did for the past 4 years (ie still living with parents or moved to an adjacent town from where they grew up) it seems like nothing in their lives have changed. Its like they live in a bubble filled with a routine.

But I feel like if I were to move back to NJ after college I will be sucked back into the comforts of home and never leave. So Ive decided to kinda start new and explore my options and to move to NOVA (and because I got a job offer there).

In some ways Im hoping to find someone, because I thought my chances of finding a guy would be better in Washington DC area versus NJ. But is it harder to meet/find someone in a more city area?
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Old 10-25-2010, 11:47 PM
 
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How much money will you be making? Where will you work in NOVA? What is your job title?

Personal note: are you attractive?
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Old 10-26-2010, 04:31 AM
 
Location: northern Virginia
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Come to the NOVA/DC area and don't go back to NJ! I did and never once regetted it. You sound like me 20 years ago and it sounds like we must have grown up in the same part of NJ with similar friends, lol. You already sound like you don't fit in with your old crowd.

This area is loaded with educated, available, ambitious and fun young singles. I stayed in NJ a few years after college, lived in Richmond for a few years, and then landed in NOVA. I met my now-husband within 10 months of living here. And I had no problem dating as soon as I moved here. Can't say the same about my time in Richmond or NJ.

Cost of living can be tough, but the same goes for NJ (unless you live with parents, but who wants to do that?). Get a job lined up, hook up with some roomates, work hard and save some money and see what the area has to offer you.

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Ive lived in NJ all my life but went away for college. But now that I have graduated coming back to NJ is like going back into time because seriously nothing has changed. My old friends are still doing the same exact thing as they did for the past 4 years (ie still living with parents or moved to an adjacent town from where they grew up) it seems like nothing in their lives have changed. Its like they live in a bubble filled with a routine.

But I feel like if I were to move back to NJ after college I will be sucked back into the comforts of home and never leave. So Ive decided to kinda start new and explore my options and to move to NOVA (and because I got a job offer there).

In some ways Im hoping to find someone, because I thought my chances of finding a guy would be better in Washington DC area versus NJ. But is it harder to meet/find someone in a more city area?
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Old 10-26-2010, 05:15 AM
 
Location: Home is where the heart is
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In some ways Im hoping to find someone, because I thought my chances of finding a guy would be better in Washington DC area versus NJ. But is it harder to meet/find someone in a more city area?
Is it harder to meet someone in a more urban area? No, IMO it's easier because there's more people to choose from. OTOH, it is much harder to meet someone in a new city--no matter what city you move to. On the third hand, it's worth it (IMO).

The standard advice applies--you meet new friends and dates by joining meet-up groups, sports clubs, music groups, church groups, taking a class, etc.
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Old 10-26-2010, 06:44 AM
 
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Watch out - you will miss all your friends and relatives - you will find that family matters more than anything in this life - people here are cold, the food is bad - no real neighborhoods - the cost of living is very high - you will live in a dump for a ton of money - say goodbye to the beautiful NJ beach - it takes 3 hours in traffic to get the beach here - all you will do is sit in traffic - a lot of people are very stuck up, you will miss the NJ "realness" - you will see......
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Old 10-26-2010, 06:51 AM
 
Location: Spartanburg, SC
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Watch out - you will miss all your friends and relatives - you will find that family matters more than anything in this life - people here are cold, the food is bad - no real neighborhoods - the cost of living is very high - you will live in a dump for a ton of money - say goodbye to the beautiful NJ beach - it takes 3 hours in traffic to get the beach here - all you will do is sit in traffic - a lot of people are very stuck up, you will miss the NJ "realness" - you will see......
Wow! Nothing like bursting her bubble.

OP: Give it a go. Congratulations on the job offer . Explore, grow, spread your wings, meet new people. Even if you end up not liking a new city, it will at least expand your view of the world.

And . . . worst case scenario is you can always move back home. But if you never try, you'll always wonder "what if". Best of luck.
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Old 10-26-2010, 07:34 AM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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Watch out - you will miss all your friends and relatives - you will find that family matters more than anything in this life - people here are cold, the food is bad - no real neighborhoods - the cost of living is very high - you will live in a dump for a ton of money - say goodbye to the beautiful NJ beach - it takes 3 hours in traffic to get the beach here - all you will do is sit in traffic - a lot of people are very stuck up, you will miss the NJ "realness" - you will see......
I miss a lot of things about California...but my reasons for wanting to move back have nothing to do with friends and family, and everything to do with beach/fruit/weather, lol. I have plenty of friends here now, and I greatly appreciate the independence I have from my family. My sister and cousins are mentally "trapped" in southern California, and I doubt they'll ever leave. I feel bad for them, not me.

NJ is hardly light years away from NoVA. It is completely reasonable to go back for the weekend if there's a family birthday or other event. If you don't feel like driving, there are trains.

And if after a couple years the OP doesn't like NoVA, there's no rule that says you can't move somewhere else!
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Old 10-26-2010, 11:50 AM
 
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Watch out - you will miss all your friends and relatives - you will find that family matters more than anything in this life - people here are cold, the food is bad - no real neighborhoods - the cost of living is very high - you will live in a dump for a ton of money - say goodbye to the beautiful NJ beach - it takes 3 hours in traffic to get the beach here - all you will do is sit in traffic - a lot of people are very stuck up, you will miss the NJ "realness" - you will see......

Dont get me wrong I LOVE NJ, it is home and it will always be home.But my option is to live in the suburbs near my parents. Or go to DC, I mean Im young and in my 20s. I have a sister in DC so I feel like I will know people in the area. Plus my uncle and aunt live in Centreville. So family not being around isnt not a big issue. Ive lived in Boston for 5 years and NYC for 2 years. So i feel like Ive seen and met all sort of people.
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Old 10-26-2010, 11:52 AM
 
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How much money will you be making? Where will you work in NOVA? What is your job title?

Personal note: are you attractive?

Im working in the medical field making six figures. But i heard cost of living is high in DC metro area is that true?
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Old 10-26-2010, 12:06 PM
 
Location: Spartanburg, SC
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Six figures? Single person? I'd say you're in very good shape! Congratulations on making good life choices.
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