I was imagining writing this post...
.. I imagine meaningful thoughts turning into insightful words, I imagine you nodding your head and say, yes! I get it! I imagine my fingers hitting the keys quickly so you are reading this right away! (Geee, that worked, right, you're read--oh, never mind!
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Okay, the real message now! Thank you for clicking on my post even in it's lateness. Life got in the way- working overtime each day.
7 Helpful Tips To Immediately Increase Your Confidence
http://topachievement.com/kentsayre.html
The article talks about improving doing something you may think you can't. My comments are focused on the more general terms, relating to the suggestions.
Brief synopses of the points.
1. Putting problems in perspective- is the problem as big as you think?
2. Imagining you are doing the thing you want to do. Our brain reacts to images we create the same as the real event.
3. Finding a role model- someone you look up to and can adapt some of their attitudes and behaviors
4. Acting like you can do what you want. I feel this is different than the saying, fake it till you make it... more about that below
5. Imagine you are at for their help. What is the worse that will happen if they say no? They might assist you!
6. Seeking out people and asking u can switch the words or imagine mid-thought! Changing the voice or put it in a different context.
7.Turn off the negative self talk- hard to do but at the end of your life... is the situation or problem you are experienced even going to matter?
I like this article because I often lack confidence! These seven tips are good, can be a good starting point in developing more... dare I say the obvious
... developing more confidence.
During the last three days, six hours, and four minutes (but who is counting?
) I kept coming back to the idea that our brain reacts to the image we give it as much at the real event. My first thought was, okay! I am going to imagine I have a husband and children and every night imagine what we all did! My brain will be happy! HA
My second thought was how important the image we create of what happens to us is.
There is a quote that relates...
It's not what happens to you that matters. It's how you respond to what happens to you that makes a difference."- Zig Ziglar
The image that we create is what affects how we respond. It's best if we can create positive images but that is not always possible due to the nature of life. We can recognize the image we are presenting ourselves and change it. It can mean we handle a hard situation.
Even if we can't change it, we must at least remind ourselves that the image is there. Understand how the image creates it in part. Be compassionate to yourself regarding what is happening and tell yourself that you can get through it. That will help in your belief that you can do it!
Imagine you ARE getting through it. Ask yourself questions like the article says to do about what you want to do, how it would be. This acting like you can do it is different than faking it until you make it! In faking it, you continue doing something that you don't think you can but you pretend you can. You say what you need to, to get through the situation. Maybe that means telling customers what you believe they will accept.
But acting like you can do it, is using questions to puzzle out about HOW to do the activity or problem and thinking about how you want it to end up. It is asking yourself what you need BEFORE if possible and reaching out to others to help you.
The last thing I'd like to share is about how important it is to deal with your negative talk. We will never end it. It's there for a reason- we're insecure or we're worried about our ability. Since we can't stop it, use it.
I will say, "I am so stupid". STOP I think. I see a stop sign in my mind and I change the word from stop to kind. Be kind to you, I think. And I laugh. And my mood is lightened and I can move on in a better fashion.
Thanks for reading and see you next THURSDAY.
P.S... Starting next week my thread will be called Healthy Living Tips and will appear on Thursday! See ya then!
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