Did you have an unwanted child and now regret it? (parent, daughter)

[purehuman]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Did you have an unwanted child because you were careless and now regret it?

First off...I'd never regret any of my children...be they planned or surprises......secondly, I can't imagine anyone would regret having a child, because if they don't want to keep and raise it, there's lots of good people more than willing to love another child.

[Joliefille]

Not me, but I had a close friend who became pregnant at 15 and with pressure from her parents, decided to keep it. She admits she was a poor parent, She didn't know any better. Her daughter ended up pregnant at 14. So now she is a 30 something Grandmother who sincerely regrets keeping the baby many years ago. She knows the baby would have been better off with adoptive parents, and possibly stopped the downward spiral of this family. Very sad.

[Megafoxy]

Why would you even bother asking this? Only a heartless person would regret their child, regardless if they were planned or not.

[miyu]

I am sure there are parents out there who have had babies with birth defects who regret having them. I think there are people who regret having unwanted children out of "carelessness" as well, but they rarely admit to it, even if they are terrible parents. Birth control failure happens quite often. Could have just been their unlucky day.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by ImCurlybelle

cpg35223, I wish there was a "like" button here- I'd hit it !!

I love what you wrote

There is a button if you liked the post.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Irishiis49

If you do never let the child know! My mother-in-law did not want to be a mother again and let both my husbands sisters know it (they're twins)! Fastfoward 30 years and they both have self esteem issues! Somethings are just better left unsaid!

Why not tell the truthwhen he is an adult?

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by 90sman

A person would have to be mentally insane or mentally disordered to regret having their kids.

Well, it was unwanted to begin with.

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by miyu

I am sure there are parents out there who have had babies with birth defects who regret having them. I think there are people who regret having unwanted children out of "carelessness" as well, but they rarely admit to it, even if they are terrible parents. Birth control failure happens quite often. Could have just been their unlucky day.

Its cheaper to get an abortion then keep the unwanted child.

[donie1]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

What kind of damn question is this?

That's what I thought too.

But to answer your question. Both were pleasant surprises and both very much wanted and loved.

[donie1]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Well, it was unwanted to begin with.

Really your answers are....odd. Just because a child is unwanted does not mean that the mother doesn't love the child when it is born. It can go both ways. A mother can love or not love an unwanted child.