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More likely that it is a coincidence, or we'd all have cancer.
No, I am not referring to "us all."
We are not all closely kin per genetics. this is one family and talking about the closest of kin, within it.
Four had the shots and three of the four suffered terribly, per their health.
Two of the family did not have the shots and they are the healthiest. (Even within our two daughters, the one that had two sets of shots suffered chronic issues that were kin to Crohns disease and the one with no shots is more vibrantly healthy, yeah, another coincidence? could be, or...may not be!)
In keeping with this thread's subject, which is something others have failed to do a bit, I did what my own inner-leading was for my own children, felt at peace about it and in hindsight have absolute validation that I did what was right for them, and us.
I'm all over the map. Lol I wore my dd for her 1st year, and we co slept for years (I still drag the kids out of our bed. Lol) . I was harshly judged for the co sleeping. Not by friends and family, but strangers in passing conversations. I pumped and fed, then, formula. I had 2 kids 12 1/2 mos apart in age. No schedule, just survive. I fed when they were hungry, they slept when they were tired. Never a set schedule.
That is US. We vaccinate, eat meat, I'm a sahm. We do what works for us. I might not agree with others, but, they might not with me either.
My now 7yo girl, and 8yo boy, love hiking, geocaching, our mountains, etc, what hubby and I love and help them love. We aren't better or worse than others, we are human.
I felt like I was judged at certain times...who knows.
I felt like MIL judged me for breastfeeding, not because she disagreed with it, but because it interfered with her monopolizing. MIL probably judged me for all sorts of things.
Was judged for breastfeeding too long, or not long enough.
I "gave in" to most immunizations but delayed varicella for one of my kids...was judged for that.
My mom and MIL did their time with cloth diapering when we were babies. Even if I did want to use cloth diapers, I was all about making things convenient when others would watch the babies. Each option has advantages and disadvantages.
May I observe that this thread is kind of hysterical? "I've been judged by those mean, nasty parents who do completely useless and damaging things to their children!"
I agree that people make evaluative judgments all of the time, that's human nature. It's when we move into the "my way is the best way" and "it's my opinion that you are doing IT wrong" with all of the condescension and negative judgmental language that things get irritating to me.
Re: the OP question- anything and everything is up for grabs for judging. You learn to ignore it, politely redirect, and come up with snappy retorts. I think it's more challenging to handle from close friends and families than from strangers. I wonder if parenting choices are such hot-button issues because there is no "right way," and there really is no final end product that gets an A+, just hopefully well-adjusted, happy human beings who are continuously a work in progress.
Get over it, or deny it to feel good in your paradigm.
Do you know the difference between causation, correlation and coincide? I am thinking not.
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