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I think he's doing the ask for a pony business, knowing that judges will usually halve what he asks for. For now, how will the 12 hours/week be done? As a Sunday? As two hours six times a week?
The few custody agreements I'm privy to knowing the details of (in NJ & NY), the agreements do have a move away clause. They vary in distance from 50-100 miles.
Thanks for the links, I am sure Jersey will find them helpful. I am from NJ as well, btw. That is one of the reason I suggested she start the school career selection process now, so it predates the move away clause. I know a parent who have been able to move due to being granted a fellowship at a grad program.
I know a parent who have been able to move due to being granted a fellowship at a grad program.
That's different because you can't get a fellowship just anywhere. If there is a university nearby with a degree in the specialty of education she wishes to pursue, Jersey's daughter may have to prove she couldn't get accepted there or the financial aid was better elsewhere. She probably won't have a problem, but I'm just saying it's not a slam dunk.
That's different because you can't get a fellowship just anywhere. If there is a university nearby with a degree in the specialty of education she wishes to pursue, Jersey's daughter may have to prove she couldn't get accepted there or the financial aid was better elsewhere. She probably won't have a problem, but I'm just saying it's not a slam dunk.
Nothing ever is. I'm a firm believer in expecting the worst but hoping for decent.
Thanks for the links, I am sure Jersey will find them helpful. I am from NJ as well, btw. That is one of the reason I suggested she start the school career selection process now, so it predates the move away clause. I know a parent who have been able to move due to being granted a fellowship at a grad program.
According to what's posted from the link, based on the fact the baby was born in the state Jerseys daughter will still need to petition the court should she want to move out of state or move a distance within the state that would interfere with the father's custody/visitation order.
According to what's posted from the link, based on the fact the baby was born in the state Jerseys daughter will still need to petition the court should she want to move out of state or move a distance within the state that would interfere with the father's custody/visitation order.
True but petitioning the court when you have already expressed the need to go to graduate school out of state is vastly different than agreeing to a stipulation that you cannot move more than 20 miles away. She just needs to get it on the court records as a probability in the future and it will be meet with more favor when the time comes to actually move.
They live in Warren county, there are no public universities in the entire county. The flagship school is fifty miles away. Mentioning now the need to continue her education down the road so she can support the child is reasonable but not possible if she agreed to a 20 mi stipulation.
That's different because you can't get a fellowship just anywhere. If there is a university nearby with a degree in the specialty of education she wishes to pursue, Jersey's daughter may have to prove she couldn't get accepted there or the financial aid was better elsewhere. She probably won't have a problem, but I'm just saying it's not a slam dunk.
That is why she needs to start the process now. Rutgers is the major public university. It is cheapest and has the most aid to give. It is probably 50 miles or more away. If she plants the seed now when they are in mediation that this is how she is going to support the child, than in two or three years when she is ready to finish her degree (there is no public uni in their county) she is going to have an easier time petitioning the court as she has proven this is no plan to remove the father from the child's life but rather necessary for the support of the child.
In this economy how can anybody demand someone not move more than 20 miles away. Jobs can be scarce and our society is mobile because of the need to relocate for employment. if he insists on that asinine stipulation she should agree only if he is willing to pay 100% support for the child and she gets full custody because she may not be able to get a decent job.
They live in Warren county, there are no public universities in the entire county. The flagship school is fifty miles away. Mentioning now the need to continue her education down the road so she can support the child is reasonable but not possible if she agreed to a 20 mi stipulation.
I'm not responding to this to refute the importance of her not locking herself into a 20 mile stipulation. She definitely needs to protect herself from that. But I can't imagine Jersey's daughter moving away to live on or near a campus. How will she afford that? She can't live in the dorms. She can't cram her child into an apartment with 3 or 4 other students like many students do to save money. Unless Jersey moves near a university, I don't see how her daughter can do anything but commute to her classes, like some students who attend outlying universities 50 miles away from where they live in my region. There are many scholarships for single parents though, and maybe the extra money can cover the extra housing costs she'll have compared to traditional students' costs.
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