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she has been staying home alone alot due to my work hours, she has access to netflix and hulu, she does have a history of attention seeking behavior, such as if i am not home exactly on time she will goto a neighbors house and tell them she is scared and doesnt know where her mother is, when she knows ill be home very soon, she may be doing this for an excuse to leave the house while grounded I just dont know.....her grades have also fqallen to mostly D's and F's lately.......
I think she is watching a lot of scary movies, so I'd advise you to put her in an after school program or get some friends or family to look after her when you can't. Or let her speak to someone, don't let her spend so much time alone anymore
Did she start junior high this year? I think it might be a combination of a much bigger, different school, more demanding work, the move you said you made, being home alone after school, and having to deal with puberty...that's enough changes to make anyone a bit nervous.
My dad is schizophrenic and I've seen the way it affects the medical treatment he gets. I would hate to have one of my children labeled with that diagnosis if it was just the anxiety of a new living situation, new school, etc.
I think the first step is to find after-school care for her, and also find out what the teachers have to say about her grades.
Next, supervise her online access...if she has netflix and hulu she has the internet also. There are a lot of less-than-good things a kid home alone can explore, and some of them could be pretty scary to her. You can check her history to see what she's been up to.
When you come home later than she expected, are you staying late at work, or stopping to run errands or go shopping or go to the gym or something like that? If it's work, there's not a lot you can do, but if you're doing other things on the way home, why not go home and pick her up first? She wants to spend time with you, that's why she goes to the neighbors and says she's scared and doesn't know where you are.
Honestly this post (from the title) made me want to tell you get her evaluated for possible schizophrenia because it sounds like someone I knew who had this, and when I read her grandmother had it, well, this thing can be genetic.
Don't take it lightly, don't put it off, I've heard the suicide rates of people with this condition is 40-50% attempt this at least once.
she has been staying home alone alot due to my work hours, she has access to netflix and hulu, she does have a history of attention seeking behavior, such as if i am not home exactly on time she will goto a neighbors house and tell them she is scared and doesnt know where her mother is, when she knows ill be home very soon, she may be doing this for an excuse to leave the house while grounded I just dont know.....her grades have also fqallen to mostly D's and F's lately.......
84? My bells and whistles are already going off regarding your post. Grades are down and she goes to your neighbor's house feeling that she feels safe there.
Something is going on here. Is there some kind of abuse going on that you are unaware of?
At first I was a little concerned about paranoia, but it sounds like your daughter frightens easily and is kind of dramatic, so I think it is probably a phase. Don't actively feed into it (but be aware of how she is acting) and see if it passes.
Has anyone considered that maybe this child does have someone watching her ? I mean we hear it all the time on the news when kids are molested that they perpetrator had been watching them for a while . Have you considered this OP ? I mean have there been any children kidnapped or taken in your neighborhood recently ? Im just bringing the possibility to light that maybe the child is not imagining it .
You know, the daughter might actually have a watcher. It would be a good thing to check this out. Wireless outdoor surveillance cameras are inexpensive and will impress the girl when she grows up that you took her serious.
I had the feeling I was being watched back in high school in 1972. One day a ex-friend said he knew what I did at night.
My father clipped a hot wire (110 volt) to the aluminum window frame. We heard a load scream about midnight. Police responded when the boys father complained. My father simply said "how did he get hurt doing something he says he does not do?"
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