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I'm not even a parent (never wanted to be), but in my wildest dreams I can not imagine leaving a kid with a stranger from care.com or some other agency for months while I am out of the country. Nor can I imagine dumping a kid into the foster care system on purpose.
And this is "on purpose" because I can not imagine ANY emergency that is more important than your kid. Not even parent's or sibling's being ill or dying. Nothing matters more than the kid.
I'm not even a parent (never wanted to be), but in my wildest dreams I can not imagine leaving a kid with a stranger from care.com or some other agency for months while I am out of the country. Nor can I imagine dumping a kid into the foster care system on purpose.
And this is "on purpose" because I can not imagine ANY emergency that is more important than your kid. Not even parent's or sibling's being ill or dying. Nothing matters more than the kid.
Where did the OP say it was for months at a time? I think single parents have to think about emergency care long before a crisis arises, but if her husband won't sign permission for her to take the child out of the country, her choices are pretty slim, especially if other relatives (or the father) won't step up.
Agree that there are not public resources for this type of situation. If the child's rather cannot take him/her, then ask another family member (paternal grandparent? aunt or uncle?) or a friend or neighbor. I think a paid caregiver you don't know would be a last resort but it's also an option. If you already use any sort of childcare, you could check with that provider to see if they would be able take the child. I think a lot depends on how long of a time period is involved. A few days is obviously easier to find someone who can help than several weeks would be.
If the kid is of school age, I would start with the parents of friends, if younger then perhaps a co-worker or even a daycare provider.
This is just me personally but there is no emergency that would ever occur where I would choose someone over my child. My child is the number one priority. If I had a safe situation worked out, then I would consider the family emergency but never the other way around.
Her parents live in another country. She didn't say were in her other thread.
Her child can't get a visa because the father refuses to allow her to take the child out of the country. She created a thread earlier in the year to find out her rights to take her child out of the country.
She also created a thread earlier in the year where she says she's not even pregnant yet. So either she is talking about leaving her newborn child while traveling the country (in which case, leave it with the father) or there is no child and this is all hypothetical.
Yep. She was not pregnant in February of this year.
So I would guess there is no child and this is another hypothetical thread (like the ones about maternity leave, epidurals and morning sickness).
Why is it that in the first 10 posts, only ONE person has inquired about the child's other parent????? That seems...odd.
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