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Depends. I always worked. Once my dad came in to my room and there I was...counting my shoebox full of money. He was amazed at how much I had. I thought he was proud of my accomplishment, saving that much money but he had other ideas. He insisted I put it in the bank and like a good little girl I did what I was told. He opened the account for me and I dutifully gave him my money every week.
Well, Mother's Day was coming up and I decided to buy my mom a small fountain as a gift. Yes, an expensive present but I earned the money. I went to the bank and found out I could not withdraw money from my own account. I was furious. I got the paperwork to put my name on the account and went to his office. I told him I was waiting for him to sign the papers and I wasn't leaving. After some hemming and hawing, he did. I went to the bank and took out all but $5 and never put another penny in the account. He was very angry with me.
Yes, I should have known better. Should have questioned why I never got statements, etc. But I was a kid!
I did have some friends whose parents charged them and kept the money to apply towards college. Sort of a forced college savings plan.
So sorry yellow!
I had a similar experience. My mother saw my bank statement from my part time job, money that I was saving for college, and she told me flat out that she "needed it" or she would kick me out. She got all hysterical and cried that i wasn't giving it to her "all along" even though she was collecting SSDI for my dad's disability for over a decade and I never learned of this until I was 18.
This was winter of senior year in high school when I started paying her rent. (And it overlapped w "her" SSDI payments.) And she absolutely saved none of it for my college.
But I was the only one I know of whoever paid rent in hs or college. Most people I knew had their tuition paid for, lived rent free, and some got an allowance.
I was required to volunteer or have a part time job. I think that was fair.
But did they take your moneyou or chargeven rent? Keeping a teen busy with a job or volunteer work is quite different than charging them to live in the home.
I would never think of doing it, and didn't, when my two Sons were teens. Life is tough enough for them as it is, and money is tight when you are young. To burden them even further seems like a really bad idea.
I know some people subscribe to the theory that "I want my kids to earn everything and learn responsibility " but there are lots of other ways for them to do that besides asking them for money.
My mom was mentally ill and a pretty lousy parent overall, so when I was 15, she threw me out of the house. I got my own apartment, and paid my own rent and utilities from then on. It was a better life for me than living at home.
I didn't pay rent until I graduated college. I don't think charging rent to high school students is a good idea. However, my mom did make me pay for my own car insurance, cell phone, & social activities, so I got a job at 16. Luckily my mom never asked me for a cent of that money.
I had a similar experience. My mother saw my bank statement from my part time job, money that I was saving for college, and she told me flat out that she "needed it" or she would kick me out. She got all hysterical and cried that i wasn't giving it to her "all along" even though she was collecting SSDI for my dad's disability for over a decade and I never learned of this until I was 18.
This was winter of senior year in high school when I started paying her rent. (And it overlapped w "her" SSDI payments.) And she absolutely saved none of it for my college.
But I was the only one I know of whoever paid rent in hs or college. Most people I knew had their tuition paid for, lived rent free, and some got an allowance.
Hold the phone- why are you sorry? she didn't say her dad spent the money-
I was curious because my SO and his brother had to do this. His mother was a boarderline personality disorder and to me it seems crazy. He still is expected to support his mom even though she treats him and others horribly....
I don't know any parents who charged their high school kids rent, but I've been on C-D long enough to know it has happened. I certainly don't think it's common.
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Originally Posted by Momma_bear
I have never met anyone who charged their high school kids rent or utilities. There may be someone who does, but I haven't encountered anyone.
I agree. I'm 62 years old and I have never met, nor have I heard through my children or relatives of anyone who needed to pay rent or utilities (such as electricity and heat) in HS.
I did have some friends in HS whose parents had serious financial problems where the kids "helped out" by paying for most of their own expenses such as buying clothes, school supplies, school lunches, etc.but no one paid rent. Today a very few kids pay for their own cell phone plans.
I was curious because my SO and his brother had to do this. His mother was a boarderline personality disorder and to me it seems crazy. He still is expected to support his mom even though she treats him and others horribly....
Does he live with her? If she needs real help he is not required to enable her.
your child is essentially your slave until they are 18 so yea its weird
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