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Hello, she is 1 month away from turning 13, and is starting to show signs of attitude ..
when asking her to do the dishes, she rolls her eyes, makes a face, then walks away to do them
when calmly showing her certain mistakes about dishes, she get defensive, and frustrated and talks back with an attitude, I then politely tell her that I talk to her with respect, and expect her to talk to me the same way, which works, for about a day.
then the next day, she's right back at it again ..
Hahaha, better get used to it. Teenage years are the worst. If all you are getting is a little "attitude" over chores consider yourself very lucky. Good luck.
This is about the age where girls turn in their halos for horns. Try not to take it personally and continue to be there for her when she really needs you. Eventually (in about 8 years) she will realize that you really do know a few things and she will be on good terms with you again.
Maybe bite your tongue on the little things and still give praise.
we don't have a dishwasher, there is dried food on the dishes on an almost daily basis, this just started recently though, normally the dishes are just fine ..
I'm seeing a pattern on sloppy chores, along with an attitude when asked about them ..
I guess I will just "get used to it" and wait 8 years for this to be over lol.
You remember when she was 3, and a hellion, and you just had to realize it was age appropriate and keep saying no and putting her in timeout until she turned 4 and learned how to be less of a hellion due to all of your efforts?
I haven't raised a teen yet, but I'm told it's the same way. It's completely normal for kids, girls especially, to develop major attitude at this age. It's a healthy part of their development. However, it's not something you are supposed to shrug off and ignore, you still have a be a parent and try to correct the behavior every time you see it, consistently. After a few years of consistent teaching from you, she will start to grow out of the worst parts.
I remember being sweet and wonderful until about 14. Then turning into crazy horrible hormonal attitude defiant teen girl. My dad stayed on me through that whole time, I got grounded a lot, but he was also very understanding and would explain things to me, explain why what I was doing was wrong and what the right way was. I think I turned into a human being again round about 16, and credit him with the fact that I am a well-adjusted successful adult now You just gotta tighten your belt and work your way through it.
you really don't want to raise a shrinking violet- later in life they are most susceptible to tolerating a man abusing her
when my son started getting an attitude- I didn't make it into a test of wills..i sat him down and asked what was really bothering him ... and why did I deserve that "tude?????
if you want me to treat you more age appropriately, then "act" that way
the only other thing I have to add is I'm glad I had a son
Here is the rule for my 15 and 12 year old boys: " You choose to have a bad attitude I'll add another chore to your daily list". It seems to have cut the bad attitudes down to nil. It also removed the need to nag on them about their attitude. My kids know very well I will not tolerate bad attitudes, disrespectful "looks", and big sighs to state how they feel.
Side note: I have a bunch of silver platters that were well-shined in my home until my boys finally understood that I meant EVERY WORD of what I said that bad attitudes will be followed up with extra chores every single time I see or hear it.
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You just gotta tighten your belt and work your way through it.
