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Eh, as long as everyone is fine with it and is getting their rest, I don't see the issue. Our kids slept on our bed for the longest time; just last year we finally kicked them out... and now they co-sleep in their own beds, LOL. I'm sure at some point they'll all want their own space.
So, they had issues with their kids coming to their bed and wandering the house. I think I would address that in other ways. Also, it sounds like she was having problems since she was nursing a baby while having to take care of a child with disabilities. "The Old Woman In The Shoe" comes to mind.
She basically put her life out there on the internet and then is surprised that people looked at it and I am sure it passed around like a hot potato. Hopefully, other parents and children will understand the "situation" since kids can be really cruel as can parents when it comes to "different". Would you want your child to spend the night there? Of course, no child would ever make fun of a child that is 7 years old sleeping in the same room with their parents and siblings.
If it wasn't a big deal, it wouldn't have gotten so many hits. I think this "approach" rather than solving the real issues of the children coming to their bed, wandering the house and having more children than they could really handle will come back to bite them in the butt.
They might do different arrangements for sleepovers but I get your point. My kid went for her first sleepover recently with a child (7) that still co-sleeps but I was fine with that, they all slept together that night (dad at the far end of the bed, his kid in the middle and my kid on the other end).
No, they don't.
Did you see the photo in the link you posted?
It is an IKEA hack that has two bunk beds flanking a bed.
7 people are NOT in the same king-size bed.
Exactly what I was going to say! It's at the very least a Queen with two single bunks next to it. Four kids have their own single matresses, then the baby is in with the parents in a Queen (or king).
If by intimacy he means sex, I bet their house has more than one room and while the kids are asleep in that room the parents have the whole house to roam in.
They might do different arrangements for sleepovers but I get your point. My kid went for her first sleepover recently with a child (7) that still co-sleeps but I was fine with that, they all slept together that night (dad at the far end of the bed, his kid in the middle and my kid on the other end).
When we do sleepovers, my kid and the guest(s) camp out in the den instead of sleeping in that kid's bedroom most of the time. I think it's fairly common for special arrangements to be made for sleepovers, regardless of whether or not a family cosleeps.
First of all, those parents never need any intimacy? Or maybe intimacy is just not an option with so many kids, no matter if you have separate rooms or not!?!
It's a good way to spare space I agree, but it just feels wrong...or very cute...I can't decide yet.
It wasn't all that long ago that entire families slept together in one room, often even just one bed, so its not like it doesn't work but its not for me. I don't mind my kid coming into bed with us if she has a bad dream but I don't want it being a regular thing, whereas friends of mine have both kids in their kingsize bed with them and it works for them.
Families slept together in one room because they were in poverty.
Would I do this? No, I didn't and never would.
My husband would have a fit.
We have a bed, the kids had their own beds.
Too many horror stories of parents co sleeping with infants and rolling over and killing them.
Bed-sharing is another form of co-sleeping which can be made either safe or unsafe, but it is not intrinsically one nor the other. Couch or sofa co-sleeping is, however, intrinsically dangerous as babies can and do all too easily get pushed against the back of the couch by the adult, or flipped face down in the pillows, to suffocate.
Note that there are co-sleepers now that help with safety. Also, it seems that alcohol and smoking contribute to bad results when co-sleeping.
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In Japan where co-sleeping and breastfeeding (in the absence of maternal smoking) is the cultural norm, rates of the sudden infant death syndrome are the lowest in the world.
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The Academy of Breast Feeding Medicine, the USA Breast Feeding Committee, the Breast Feeding section of the American Academy of Pediatrics, La Leche League International, UNICEF and WHO are all prestigious organizations who support bed-sharing and which use the best and latest scientific information on what makes mothers and babies safe and healthy. Clearly, there is no scientific consensus.
Note that there are co-sleepers now that help with safety. Also, it seems that alcohol and smoking contribute to bad results when co-sleeping.
The death of one child from co sleeping (and that may be the dumbest term on the planet), is one too many.
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