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My husband has decided to skip our son's parent lunch today. What do I tell our son when he asks why daddy isn't there? He is only five, so I don't want him to feel abandoned or unloved. What's the best route?
My husband has decided to skip our son's parent lunch today. What do I tell our son when he asks why daddy isn't there? He is only five, so I don't want him to feel abandoned or unloved. What's the best route?
You can go in your husband's place!
If missing one lunch means that the child will feel abandoned and/or unloved, there are deeper issues....
What's your husband doing instead? If he's working, then just tell him, "daddy had to work today." If he's home playing video games, then daddy needs to have his priorities checked.
I don't think a five-year-old would feel abandoned or unloved, but he might feel bad if he's the only kid there without a parent. If you can't go, can a Grandma or Grandpa or Aunt or Uncle fill in?
I'm going. We were both supposed to go. My husband is off this week and our son is expecting him to be there. My husband is "pouting" because our son said he doesn't like him.
I'm going. We were both supposed to go. My husband is off this week and our son is expecting him to be there. My husband is "pouting" because our son said he doesn't like him.
No offense, but your husband is being less mature than a 5 year old. Kids sometimes tell their parents that they don't like them; that's just the way it is. Tell your husband to man up and deal with it.
Actually, this would be a good opportunity for him to turn it around. Have him ask your son if he wants him to attend the lunch. He will almost certainly say yes. Then, your husband can pretend to look surprised and say, "But wait, I thought you said you didn't like me. Are you SURE you want me to come to the lunch?" Your son will almost certainly say yes, and that'll be the end of it. And if by chance he does say no, then later on when he pouts that his dad didn't come, you can remind him that he (the son) asked him not to come, so it's on him. Hopefully, the cause-and-effect lesson will be learned.
My husband is off this week and our son is expecting him to be there. My husband is "pouting" because our son said he doesn't like him.
Sounds like Hubby needs to go back to kindergarten.
Tell him to get over himself and go to this lunch. He should model the behavior he wants to see from his son. What, he's gonna pay the kid back by skipping the lunch????
I'm going. We were both supposed to go. My husband is off this week and our son is expecting him to be there. My husband is "pouting" because our son said he doesn't like him.
All kids do this. I'm guessing your husband was "being mean" and not letting your son have his way?
My 3 year old will tell me she doesn't like me. but then a few minutes later she's curled up in my lap, saying so sweetly, "I love you, Daddy!"
I'm going. We were both supposed to go. My husband is off this week and our son is expecting him to be there. My husband is "pouting" because our son said he doesn't like him.
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Originally Posted by bus man
No offense, but your husband is being less mature than a 5 year old. Kids sometimes tell their parents that they don't like them; that's just the way it is. Tell your husband to man up and deal with it.
Actually, this would be a good opportunity for him to turn it around. Have him ask your son if he wants him to attend the lunch. He will almost certainly say yes. Then, your husband can pretend to look surprised and say, "But wait, I thought you said you didn't like me. Are you SURE you want me to come to the lunch?" Your son will almost certainly say yes, and that'll be the end of it. And if by chance he does say no, then later on when he pouts that his dad didn't come, you can remind him that he (the son) asked him not to come, so it's on him. Hopefully, the cause-and-effect lesson will be learned.
So what you're saying is that you didn't post to get any advice whatsoever, you just wanted to b*tch about your husband being a pouty jerk.
What is a "parent lunch" and why is it so important? And why does your husband feel like having a standoff with a 5 year old is more important than free (perhaps) food?
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