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It's been a while and I have visited her. Just to clarify, incase I didn't make it clear - it was her emailing me asking me to call her, not me initiating the calls.
We speak, but things are different. She has also been off of opioids and without them for the first time in many years, as I discovered. So, the daughter now, is not the daughter who was going through all the issues. Life seems much simpler for her now and that's good.
By the way stellastar2345- your opinion matters not. People have children at various ages and levels of maturity. Obviously by your narrow views, you must be attempting to emerge from adolescence.
well the therapy didn't seem to work otherwise she would have clarified what those boundaries are and why instead of doing the silent treatment sigh!
However I agree with the advice. Leave it be and try not to panic. Let her have her space and meanwhile be available if need be, keep strong. This is not about you but about her trying to find her place, and maybe not being so emotionally reliant on you. That is a good thing even if it isn't being handled very well, but keep in mind she might be overwhelmed.
Oh I just saw your update. Glad you are speaking.
Last edited by Spuggy; 09-19-2017 at 09:49 AM..
Reason: saw an update on original post
My daughter is a young widow 39 yrs old with 3 kids - 19, 17 and 5. Normally we would speak everyday via Skype because I live in another country. She would always initiate the call and we would talk almost all the way to her office while she drove.
She was seeing a therapist <>
Therapists will do stuff like that . They are done with the patient so they want to close off the client's life.
Hopefully your daughter will get past that.
Therapists will do stuff like that . They are done with the patient so they want to close off the client's life.
Hopefully your daughter will get past that.
Why on earth would this be something "therapists do"? It doesn't even make sense and I have never seen it happen. But I have seen therapists teach clients how to set boundaries when that is something they want and would benefit their mental health.
Last edited by HighFlyingBird; 09-21-2017 at 12:32 PM..
Why on earth would this be something "therapists do"? It doesn't even make sense and I have never seen it happen. But I have seen therapists teach clients how to set boundaries when that is something they want and would benefit their mental health.
Sadly there are some counselors/therapists who now promote cutting off family as a solution rather than help clients develop healthy strategies to set boundaries, and help clients role play in making those boundaries clearly understood by all. Unfortunately that takes a lot more work by the therapist and the client, whereas cut off is the easy way out (barring there is extreme abuse involved of course).
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