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$600 dollars is pretty cheap once I read "admissions counselor at college". Looks like you will have ample opportunity to save that $600 and more in the near future.
Did he ask, want to go on vacation, or did you drag him along?
If he was a willing party; make copies of your bills... be sure to redact your account numbers... give him the copies... and tell him you expect to be paid back ASAP.
When he complains, tell him you don't have money to waste like that. If he doesn't pay, tell him he is not welcome back at the house until he pays.
For those of you saying "kick him out of the house," do you not understand that the kid is going to college? How exactly does that work then? He gets to live in the dorm instead? Or is the plan to stop him from going to college too?
If these posts reflect family life in the USA, we are in trouble. Hell of a lot more than civil unions for gays ever could be.
This family needs talk therapy. How did it come to this? The op and the comments are all about the money. Pretty scary, IMO.
If the kid were the poster's son, would it matter? Would the comments be different?
Where is a 19 yo kid going to get the money to pay anybody back?
Why couldn't he get a job? I have 3 sons, ages 22, 20 and 17 and the older ones both had jobs when they were 19. In fact, they all had some source of income by the time they were 15-17.
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If the kid were the poster's son, would it matter? Would the comments be different?
Nope... doesn't matter.
He lied, caused the vacation plans to be altered, and wasted good money.
He should get a job and pay back what he owes... whether he is a biological son or a step-son.
Part of my discussion with the kid would be, " You lied to me this time, don't ever think of doing that again. It is going to take a lot of work on your part to regain the trust I used to have in you." At the end of the conversation, he would fully understand that I am dead serious.
One time, when my sons were about 18, my one son took something of his mother's without asking. So, the next day, while he was sleeping, I found his keys and drove his convertible to work that day. He called me and was furious, and I told him, "You thought nothing of taking that from mom without permission, so why shouldn't I do the same thing ?" He never did that again.
Nope... doesn't matter.
He lied, caused the vacation plans to be altered, and wasted good money.
He should get a job and pay back what he owes... whether he is a biological son or a step-son.
He lied.
Somebody else altered the vacation plan without checking with the college regarding the meeting. I have had 3 kids in undergraduate and graduate school. Nobody says come now or never. If my family were in another state and my kid said I have to be a meeting at school tomorrow I would pick up the phone and change the meeting.
The logistics do not favor the return of the money. The fact that no one questioned the meeting tells me that the kid has never been any trouble before or the parents don't even know who he is.
He is clearly a practiced liar. My question is still why? If they intend to continue in a relationship with him, they all need counseling. The money is the least of their problems. If it were my son, he'd be under constant watch for a year before I turned him out on the world. He'd either be grounded in my house, school and work only or self supporting.
Lessons most kids learned before the age of ten were lost on this kid.
Part of my discussion with the kid would be, " You lied to me this time, don't ever think of doing that again. It is going to take a lot of work on your part to regain the trust I used to have in you." At the end of the conversation, he would fully understand that I am dead serious.
One time, when my sons were about 18, my one son took something of his mother's without asking. So, the next day, while he was sleeping, I found his keys and drove his convertible to work that day. He called me and was furious, and I told him, "You thought nothing of taking that from mom without permission, so why shouldn't I do the same thing ?" He never did that again.
It's called tough love.
Don
Your remedy made my day.
Bet he learned that lesson fast.
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