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If they shared them before she turned 18....She pretty much has to live with it. I do believe that the pics are the property of the parents. This is one of those grey areas and will be interesting to see what happens.
Now, having reached adulthood, she could have a say....even if it has to be through the courts. And it appears she is being forced to use this route.
I'm unclear from the article if she voiced that before 18 though?
What's sad is she told her parents and they kept doing it. I cannot imagine hurting my child like this just because I could.
Well its Austria and there are other laws there. And when asked about the law suit her father said he has every right to post them because he took them. Not "OMG I am so sorry I am embarrassing my daughter, excuse me while I got take them down". So that answers some of why his daughter must be so upset.
I would warn parents who do this for fun and their kids go along with it...I did with my mom because going along with it was much better then actually showing I was embarrassed. Being embarrassed lets the bully (parent) win...it also makes them want to do it more. I'd be very careful.
The moment its Published on media, the subject has the right to sue. Particularly if it can be proven it created hardships. This certainly seems the case.
The "intent" is what seems to be open to scrutiny.
I always ask my kids if I can post a picture of them before I post it - I show it to them to get their approval first. If they approve, I post it. If they say no, I ask if I can take ANOTHER picture in the hopes of getting a bettre one. If they say yes, then I take a new picture and ask for approval. Once approved, then I ask if I can tag them - if they say no, I don't, if they say yes, I do. I would never post a picture they don't like - just as I hope they'd never do the same thing to me (or their friends).
Teach them respect early, and they'll respect you and others back.
Well, if your kids have a problem with the sharing of childhood photos by the parents. Perhaps they should just ask not to be born. Wait til they have kids of their own.
Well, if your kids have a problem with the sharing of childhood photos by the parents. Perhaps they should just ask not to be born. Wait til they have kids of their own.
At first before reading the article, i was on board with those who called the teenage girl a spoiled brat, she needs to get over it, etc. But, upon seeing a picture of her potty training...i feel like that is questionable, just like parents who post pictures of their kids at bath time and not enough bubbles cover them up........i mean, it is just a picture, but a personal one at that.
I would like to know what reason, if any, are the parents doing this besides 'refusing to see their daughter as being a grown up'...i mean really, what do parents who do this get out of it? I want to say they are trying to teach her a lesson, via. extreme embarrassment, about privacy and internet and what not things that relate to this day and age of technology...but i think the parents need to stop vivaciously living through their daughter in their own perverse twisted way.
Maybe for "revenge" the girl is 18 she could do porn pictures or be a stripper or whatever and at least get something out of her pictures being put all over the internet, and use the money to live her own life without her parents.
My first thought revenge wise was "two can play that game" or "turn about fair play".
The kid should make a practice of lurking and taking embarrassing photos of the parents and then posting them.
For instance, snap a pic of parent sleeping on couch, fat gut hanging out, mouth wide open, drooling all over the pillow, snot bubble in nostril then post it everywhere! {No nude pics. }
The parents were out of line -- once the kids are old enough to be teased by their friends on social media over all those "adorable" baby pictures, parents need to respect their kids and keep the photos private. It's simple respect and courtesy. Suing seems to be an extreme reaction, but I suspect there is a long history of ridicule and embarrassment on the part of the parents towards the child(ren), to elicit this kind of action.
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The parents were out of line -- once the kids are old enough to be teased by their friends on social media over all those "adorable" baby pictures, parents need to respect their kids and keep the photos private. It's simple respect and courtesy. Suing seems to be an extreme reaction, but I suspect there is a long history of ridicule and embarrassment on the part of the parents towards the child(ren), to elicit this kind of action.
Phhhfffft.. that would be the day I would back off if my kids peers started razing them about old pictures. But then, my kids know me, my sense of humor, and might, just might post an old picture of me. But we have a good relationship.
Anyone who gets their panties in a was about old pictures has an issue far greater than embarrassment.
When did Americans all get a superbug variety of that special snowflake disease?
My daughter probably falls in the millennial category at age 33 now. When she was little, few people had digital cameras - we used film that had to be developed (unless we had our own developing expertise and equipment at home) at the camera store. There were policies in place that disallowed anything at all resembling pornographic pictures, especially of children so if pictures that were too lewd or could be construed that way were found on the roll, they never were printed and given back to the customer. Period.
Most of us of course were careful not to even take those kinds of pictures but if you did, you didn't have a copy anyway. I have ONE picture they did print that I have always loved but which when I look at it now might be seen by some as perhaps bordering on provocative (because she was only wearing a slip and a hat and the way she was sitting was sort of flirty - for a 3 year old - she wasn't even nude or exposing anything except her shoulders) .. I keep a copy and it makes me smile .. she was so cute .. but you will never see that picture online anywhere because I know the kind of perverts who might take it the wrong way.
These days of course it is much easier to take any picture you want digitally and never have to have them 'developed' outside the home - but even then, when my husband died and I went to view his body and asked if it was ok for me to take a picture of him, I was told no it wasn't allowed (though quietly I was also told if I wanted to, I should NEVER ever show it to anyone other than myself and shouldn't allow the funeral home to know I had done it because they would be in trouble. Not sure if there is a law about this, but, I was cowed and complied.)
That said, I don't know what to think in this particular case of daughter/parent rivalry. Is it really just about the 'consent' issue? Is it bullying or is it standard fare in this particular family to rib each other and did the daughter do it somehow to her parents for years too? It may not be nice and most of us would not do that but it doesn't sound as though the pictures themselves were illegal or full on nudity. That picture of the child on the potty - what is so embarrassing about that? And if the parents did this all her life, could they even have gotten 'informed consent' from her when she was 2 or 3 years old? Is it reasonable that they should have had to at that point? Perhaps their real mistake was in not stopping when she reached adulthood?
I would not have dreamed of posting pictures of my daughter that I thought could be in any way used as porn material for some pervert, but, funny poses, cake on the face, her getting into some kind of mischief ... I did submit some of that kind of thing to her for her yearbook when she graduated - and we both had a good laugh about them (but she would not allow them to be included either mind you). I don't post any pictures of anyone online though - I just don't get that trendy thing to do - but that is me. I would not have shown her first boyfriend anything like those either without her consent - even though perhaps I wanted to. But, if I had and it was genuinely just a 'mistake' to do so (in her eyes) I hope she would not have tried to sue me.
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