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First of all, I would stop bragging about him. Your bragging about his scores puts a lot of pressure on him. That's possibly why he lied in the first place. No need to brag about kids' grades. It's one thing to be proud of your child and tell him so, and it's another thing entirely to brag about your child to others. No one likes that. Not the ones listening, and not the child who then feels pressure to continue to be something to brag about.
Other than that, I would say that he needs to take care of himself and his grades. If his college grades are doing ok, then continue to support him without placing unnecessarily high expectations on him.
Freshman year of college is notoriously like this.
OMG my kid didn't even register for the correct core courses Freshman year and when he told me what he was taking and I freaked out he said "they told me all the slots were full for the core courses".
He wasn't lying; they told me the same thing. While I'm paying 30K per year back in the 90's. It literally took me over a MONTH to get his schedule straighten out that first semester.
The OTHER PROBLEM IS, they won't discuss it with the parents even IF THEY ARE PAYING the tuition; you have to get the kid to sign a privacy waiver.
Everyone is so quick to lecture "he's an adult now" LOLOL yeah right.
DROP THE HAMMER RIGHT NOW.
STRAIGHTEN OUT OR NO MORE TUITION MONEY.
In a nice way.
He MAY be having organizational difficulties or something....but statistically it's more likely he's having difficulties with partying.
He lied because he didn't want to disappoint you, because he was embarrassed.
I would tell him you're disappointed that he lied, and expect him to be truthful going forward. Assure him that your love for him does not depend upon how well he does on an exam.
My parents gave me a certain amount of $$ for each semester that I had a 3.0 GPA. They left it up to me to figure out how to get it. They didn't micromanage. Sometimes I didn't make it, sometimes I did.
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Who is paying the bills???
