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I removed my 14 YO's bedroom door this evening. He was warned not to slam it when he got upset. He did not heed the warning. The door has been removed.
I would say a week or two. long enough to let him see how awful it is without any privacy and how easily we can all take things for granted. Good luck.
LOL!!! Way To Go!!!!! Love seeing a parent that follows through like you did!
Id go for the week as well...and let it be known, that each following offence of slamming will have another week added to the previous time!
Hows he handling it btw?
Tiff
Considering the warnings given and how totally disrespectful slammning the door is, I say way to go as well. Especially on the follow through part. I think a lot of times threats are issued but no follow through is provided and this just undermines the parent.
In anycase... I'd have to agree 1 week is probably good here. However, before that door goes back up again, I would sit the teen down and have a serious conversation about why the door was removed, why the behavior is inappropriate, what the expectations are in your home and what will happen if the behavior is ever repeated again. Mind you, I am sure that you already have stated those things but with kids sometimes it bears repeating, especially if they are just not getting it. Perhaps seeing you truly meant business will aid in that getting it part.
I would say that if the door is put back up and the behavior repeats itself, doesn't matter how much time has gone by, next time it will be 2 weeks, then 3 weeks then 4 weeks... until the message is received loud and clear that this behavior will not be accepted.
Thanks team CD! I woke up this morning and saw his open door and felt guilty... NO, NOT GUILTY ENOUGHT CAVE IN!
One week it is.
Bigtdog- I don't think he can put it back up alone- but neither can I, so I guess it will be a mother- child bonding experience when the time comes to rehang it.
And Tiff- as to your question of how is he handling it? He hasn't said too much to me and is getting dressed in the bathroom this morning
I removed my 14 YO's bedroom door this evening. He was warned not to slam it when he got upset. He did not heed the warning. The door has been removed.
How long do you think I should keep it off?
Oh this brought back such fun memories. We did that with our daughter at just the same age. I think hers was gone for six months but it was for something far worse than slamming the door. Good punishment though especially for a girl.
Good for you, mama! I think a week is perfect... I bet he won't do THAT again! Good for you for following through and not letting him get away with bad behavior!
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Good punishment though especially for a girl.
