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Originally Posted by cgirl99
I am not indian but i would like to know why at my doctors office both parents of an indian child are ALWAYS with them. The father is usually the one holding the child or the infant seat and doing all the paper work at the check out counter. Usually in the US mothers do this. I found it interesting that Indian fathers are so involved. I know American fathers are to but this seems to be a bit different. I have also notices that most indian familys are together alot...even extended family. what is this called and what are the reasons for it? Also what other roles does the father play and what does the mother think about it. I know she can tell a difference b/c she's in the US. thanks for your help in helping me understand this.
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We had our first baby about 4 months ago. Me and my wife have gone together to the doctors office almost every time while she was pregnant and even after the baby is born.
In Indian families there is lot of family support when raising a child. It is common to have 3 generations living under the same roof. In our case we even have 4 generations living together for many months in a year.
So when you come out of such family and living in US or other country, husband has to make up for it. Also in India, a pregnant women is very taken care of. Mother is not expected to life weights, kneel or bend , very little physical work etc. A lot of these come from previous generation family members.
We have maids or helpers to do all of that stuff in India but here husband has to do it.In my case, I have done every single house hold thing (read cooking, cleaning, washing, mopping, feeding baby, bathing baby, diaper changing, many more) since my wife became pregnant. Its not to say that my wife does not do any of these things.
Couple of other things ...
1) Many females don't drive. So husband's have to bring them to the doctor
2) Many non-working spouses have a hard time expressing their problems to the doctor so husband helps them out by attending with her
3) In India fathers are seen as stubborn, disciplinary figure. By the time kids remembers anything ( Read Age 5), they usually have a sibling. They are expected to play each other and fathers involvement decreases rapidly. I know this is not the case with every one but it is the case with majority. People like us who have experienced both the worlds know what difference it can make if their parents are behind the kids and we make it a point to be behind them in every single thing.
Now a days in India people are so busy there is a new saying "Parents don't get time to spend with their kids. They could only spend their time with their grand kids"
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