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I'd like your opinions on this. And as I said in the title, I acknowledge that I'm probably overreacting. Feel free to tell me so if that's what you think.
I have an acquaintance, a mom who has a 6 year old son in soccer.
She stated recently that her son "has a hard-on for anyone with the ball".
Now that's a disgusting thing to say about a 6 year old boy to me, but I also realize it's not so much sexualizing a child as it is just a crude thing to say in relation to a little boy.
Wow! That is disgusting! No, you are not overreacting. It's just a disgusting way to refer to your own kid, just totally inappropriate. Hard on and 6 year old don't even belong in the same sentence. Even the little one they get upon waking was always referred to jokingly in our house as a little flagpole, when it was referred to at all (i've got a younger brother).
Maybe she realizes how crass it sounded and regrets saying it. Don't let it bother you too much unless she says it again. If she does, I would literally just say "That's disgusting" right then and there and maybe she'll connect the dots. Ugh!
ditto what findinghope said, too.
I think your overreacting. I think she could have chosen different words to describe her son's feelings towards soccor. But I wouldn't make a huge deal about it. If it bothers you, I would just tell her that you didn't appreciate her choice of words.
While it's a term I would never use, it might just be a saying that is very common in her circle of family and friends. She might not realize that it would be offensive to others.
I'd let it go or if she says it again and your offended, ask her to explain her meaning and hopefully, as she's explaining it she'll realize that it's really not appropriate to describe a 6 year old.
I think that is AWFUL of her to say especially if the kids can hear her saying it. TERRIBLE! Now, if you two are just having coffee alone with no kids and the subject of soccer comes up, then it is different; we tend to say things we would not otherwise say with our children when alone w/adult friends. Even then, I'd probably say in a joking manner, "I hope you don't say that when the kids are around..."
omg that poor kid would be humiliated if he knew what that meant... that's pretty degrading for a mom to say about her kid! what would she say about her daughter??
i don't know if i could've kept my mouth shut on that one.. and it's not easy to trigger an audible opinion from me....
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