Question for parents of teens... (babies, smart, child, 17 year old)
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I have a very general question because right now we are going through something due to someone else's poor parenting.
If your child (age 17) had issues (drugs) and you left him home over a week to go on vacation yourself (to somewhere about 40 minutes away) and the police had to be called, would you continue your vacation or go home and deal with the situation?
I have a very general question because right now we are going through something due to someone else's poor parenting.
If your child (age 17) had issues (drugs) and you left him home over a week to go on vacation yourself (to somewhere about 40 minutes away) and the police had to be called, would you continue your vacation or go home and deal with the situation?
If I knew that my 17yo. had issues with drugs, I 1) would be getting them into some sort of treatment program and 2) would defininately not be leaving them home alone for any amount of time for any sort of reason especially for a vacation.
If I knew that my teen had drug issues and I was stupid enough to leave them alone so that I could vacation for a week and the cops were called I would not only deserve missing the rest of my vaction, I would also deserve spending the rest of my vacation time down at the jailhouse.
Yes if there is a drug issue and/or an incident that involved police I'd be home or at the very least, that teen would be under a reliable adult's supervision.
I would be hesitant to leave even a responsible 17 y.o. home for an entire week. Now if a 17 y.o. had "issues" then of course not. And if I somehow lost my mind momentaritly and DID, then of course I would come home. But you know this already. Maybe this explains the whole "issue" thing to begin with. Good luck.
I would be hesitant to leave even a responsible 17 y.o. home for an entire week. Now if a 17 y.o. had "issues" then of course not. And if I somehow lost my mind momentaritly and DID, then of course I would come home. But you know this already. Maybe this explains the whole "issue" thing to begin with. Good luck.
I agree. We have a 17 year old DS and he is more then capable of staying home for a week alone. We have left him for weekends alone and he is just fine. If there were a reason we could not TRUST him though, we would not be doing that. Keep in mind that these 17 year olds are going off to college in a year, they aren't babies. Now, obviously the drug thing puts a whole new spin on things.
Thank you. I thought maybe after all we went through, we were going nuts. I am shocked at the mother NOT coming back and apologizing.
We don't get along with them (thanks to THEM, not us) but this weekend (3 pot parties) pushed me to the limit and I had to call in the law. Drugs were admitted to and the kid is now slinking around like a whooped cat (not the smug smartA@@ he was a week ago).
But his mom has not come home.
They are moving in 2 months so I guess we are not worthy of 'I'm sorry.' She's also trying to make us look like we were the bad guys with the cops.
I could have called police many times before but we didn't think it was worth getting the kid in trouble..but he pushed it and now...well...
I hope when we are removed from the situation(moving out is a possibility) the woman gets the kid in line (doubtful) and gets him in rehab...
Yep - we left our RESPONSIBLE DD home for a weekend or two when she was 17. Even then - neighbors knew the situation and kept their eyes open....17 is still 17....
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I agree. We have a 17 year old DS and he is more then capable of staying home for a week alone. We have left him for weekends alone and he is just fine. If there were a reason we could not TRUST him though, we would not be doing that. Keep in mind that these 17 year olds are going off to college in a year, they aren't babies. Now, obviously the drug thing puts a whole new spin on things.
Last edited by maciesmom; 08-06-2009 at 08:22 AM..
Reason: clarity
They are moving in 2 months so I guess we are not worthy of 'I'm sorry.' ...
Why do you think you are owed an apology?
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