Do only children bear any responsibility to provide grandchildren? (parents, natural, grandpa)
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As an only child that does not want kids, I personally don't feel its my obligation to provide my parents grandchildren, no matter how much they may wish to have them. But...what does everyone think? I know this isn't a completely infrequent phenomenon, but sometimes I can't help like society makes me feel like I'm an a$$hole because I don't wish to have kids, and since I'm an only child, I'm preventing my parents from being grandparents.
Since you are an only child, you get all the pressure, instead of having it dispersed to other siblings. I think most parents want to see their children have offspring; it's just natural to want to see future generations.
But, that does not mean you are obligated to have children if you don't really want them. Having kids changes your life forever, so it's a very serious life decision. Your parents will just have to understand and hopefully respect your choice.
In a nutshell, it is not up to your parents rather YOU have children or not, that is YOUR choice and yours alone. They choose (for whatever reason) to have only one child themselves so why should it be a shock to them that you choose to not have any?
Don't let the pressure you into doing someting you are not comfortable with.
That being said, you do have to understand them wanting grandchildren and being dissapointed they they are not going to have them.
I never thought about it. I'm an only child as is my only cousin on my father's side. We are both female. No, it's not my job to breed for the happiness of others.
What does being an only child have to do with any of this? No one has an "obligation" to procreate, regardless of how many siblings they may have. I'm one of four kids in my family and I don't think any of us are having kids. I sure as hell am not. So once we die off, that's the end of our family name. And you know what? I don't care. That's just me, but I digress.
Point being, you need to find the strength to tell people that you are going to live your life the way you want. That's why its called your life, not someone else's.
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