Do only children bear any responsibility to provide grandchildren? (child support, custody, support)
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They will get over it. Just say no. If they insist tell them you will give birth to a child if they will raise, provide, and care for it. "Leave me the crap out of it..I don't want one in the first place."
As an only child that does not want kids, I personally don't feel its my obligation to provide my parents grandchildren, no matter how much they may wish to have them. But...what does everyone think? I know this isn't a completely infrequent phenomenon, but sometimes I can't help like society makes me feel like I'm an a$$hole because I don't wish to have kids, and since I'm an only child, I'm preventing my parents from being grandparents.
What does everyone think?
I think your parents gave you life. Now it's yours. Don't live it for them.
Similarly, when you have children (if, whatever), don't expect them to live their lives for you, either.
Depends, I suppose...could have a cultural perspective from it as well.
In traditional Chinese households, the men (sons) are supposed to have children in order to continue the family name/bloodline. The women (daughters) are meh...so this issue is probably more relaxed with them :X
I am one of two, the only son.
I have six kids, 4 of them boys.
Two sons have kids.
One son has one kid.
One son has not married, has no intention of marrying, and does not want kids.
All in all, I have 12 grandchildren and 6 greats.
The name has been perpetuated. Big deal, it isn't my name anyway.
If you don't want kids, for sure don't have any! The worst thing you could do is bring an unwanted child into the world out of some ridiculous sense of "duty"!
Of course children have an obligation to bear grandchildren for their parents- as long as they knowingly entered into the obligation before agreeing to become children of their parents.
As an only child that does not want kids, I personally don't feel its my obligation to provide my parents grandchildren, no matter how much they may wish to have them. But...what does everyone think? I know this isn't a completely infrequent phenomenon, but sometimes I can't help like society makes me feel like I'm an a$$hole because I don't wish to have kids, and since I'm an only child, I'm preventing my parents from being grandparents.
What does everyone think?
"Do only children bear any responsibility to provide grandchildren?"
Well my children are the only ones that can do it...
Does an only child bear any responsibility to provide grandchildren?
Now I understand....LOL...I had to do it the way my old wore out brain understands....
My husband is an only child and I have two brothers. All of us decided to have no kids. So neither side of the family has any grandkids.
My husband knew it might be a problem so right after we got married he told his parents this issue was not a topic of conversation and if they gave us a problem, we would not be in their lives. Simple as that. We have been married 37 years and they have not given us any problem. They just had to get over it.
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