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I'm 47, Mom's 70, in good health, independent, and lives in the same town.
I call her and/or see her about once a week. Usually related to her attending our kid's sporting/plays/school events, but sometimes just to check in and chat, or to help her with something, usually her computer tragedies or Honey-Do's. (Edit: Dad is passed away)
My brother, who lives out of town, calls Mom 2 or 3 times a day and sometimes they talk for over an hour at a time. He's self employed and has long spans of time driving from job to job, so he often calls her while driving and has plenty of time to talk. I usually talk (listen mainly) less than 5 minutes.
It's been subtly hinted to me (by Mom and brother) that I ought to call Mom more, or drop in and see her more often. I think once or twice a week is plenty and don't see the need for greater frequency.
How often do other men my age and place in life converse with your Mom?
When she was alive, once a week, Friday afternoon, no matter where I was. I lived in South America, she lived in Africa.
As well as a weekly family eMailresume on the net, pix, and a family chat on Skype about once a month (she did not have a pc so had to use the pc of my siblings)
After Mom died I kept up the practice with my late dad - also in Africa, but instead of Sundays, it was Monday nights for him., and my lunch hour in the office. The retirement home was kind enough to set that up for me.
I'm 47, Mom's 70, in good health, independent, and lives in the same town.
I call her and/or see her about once a week. Usually related to her attending our kid's sporting/plays/school events, but sometimes just to check in and chat, or to help her with something, usually her computer tragedies or Honey-Do's. (Edit: Dad is passed away)
My brother, who lives out of town, calls Mom 2 or 3 times a day and sometimes they talk for over an hour at a time. He's self employed and has long spans of time driving from job to job, so he often calls her while driving and has plenty of time to talk. I usually talk (listen mainly) less than 5 minutes.
It's been subtly hinted to me (by Mom and brother) that I ought to call Mom more, or drop in and see her more often. I think once or twice a week is plenty and don't see the need for greater frequency.
How often do other men my age and place in life converse with your Mom?
Steve
this seems excessive to me. I think you are doing fine.
My mother calls ME more than I call her. I mean she calls me like 4-6 times a day. I rather only speak to her 4-6 times a week .. LOL but its like we just spoke 20 mins ago and she would call right back with
absolutely nothing to say. How is the weather?? Fine.. Ok talk to you later.. 20 mins later.. Whats for dinner?? Food.. Ok I'll talk to you later... I think its too much!!
Since his parents (my grandparents) live close by he usually visits them Monday evening for dinner. They don't usually talk on the phone unless something important comes up.
this seems excessive to me. I think you are doing fine.
I agree.
Also some people are more talkative than others. I couldn't imagine my dh talking to anyone for an hour just to talk. I on the other hand can go for hours.
my husband calls his mom every couple of MONTHS. I call my parents a couple of times a month, more if someone has been ill, either in my house to update them, or to find out how they're doing. But that's it. My brothers call my parents about once a week usually, sometimes less, one single brother, mid 40s calls much more frequently, sometimes daily.
Until she passed away,
email once a week - photo of the kids. Phone about once every two to three weeks. More than once a month but not every week.
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Stop calling me!!!
I think its too much!!
