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Fair would be zero to everybody. That's the only way to guarantee that one party won't have the perception that another received more than they did.
I couldn't rep you anymore hiker but you summed it up in a nutshell. bottom line is one sister instead of being grateful is mad because someone got what she perceives as more than her.
It's absolutely "entitled". Once you use the word "fair" it infers that one person is "owed" exactly what the other person got.
An inheritance is not "owed" anyone. If the daughters had a "good" relationship, with no so called grudges, then the correct response would be "Thank you God for this wonderful gift" period. NOT "my sister got more than me".
when my dad died, my baby brother got a very valuable NYC apartment. My other siblings did not whine "oh he got a house and we didn't". We already had established families in 3 different states, no one was moving back to NYC. We did not say "Oh he should sell it and evenly divide the proceeds so everything can be "fair". We took the gifts that were left to us and mourned a wonderful dad.
Again an "inheritance" is a gift not a right. there is no fairness involved, a person has the right to give what they want, to whom they want.
Once people start complaining about "fairness" it's because they feel like they are "supposed" to get something.
Old lady has 2 adult daughters. Old lady has 300,000 at death.
One daughter has 4 kids. One daughter has 1 kid.
Old lady leaves $43,000 to each grand kid and 43,000 to each daughter.
43,000 x 7= $301,000
Only thing is one daughter and her family got $215,000 essentially and one daughter and her family got only $86,000.
My personal opinion is that this is unfair. Both daughters have good relationships with their mom and both daughters are solid middle class with household income a little more than $100,00 p/y.( not like the daughter with 1 kid is a millionaire and doesnt need the money.)
I most certainly did. You asked if it was "fair". there is no "fairness" in inheritances. so yes in the 250/ 50 k scenario. If those where the persons final instructions, then each sister got what was due them.
Was it equal, no it was not. Was it fair? absolutely. they got what the person wanted to give them.
why does it have to be equally per family??? is that some 11th commandment or something? As some one pointed out, Granny had 7 people she loved. she left them all equal amounts. not her fault 4 of them live in the same house. lol
I most certainly did. You asked if it was "fair". there is no "fairness" in inheritances. so yes in the 250/ 50 k scenario. If those where the persons final instructions, then each sister got what was due them.
Was it equal, no it was not. Was it fair? absolutely. they got what the person wanted to give them.
Ok.
GROSSLY unequal if you despise the word “fair”
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