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Is there a difference between stalking and being a big brother?
scenario: teenager says don't stalk me on myspace as I don't want people to know what I'm posting. adult says it's being a big brother and looking out for them.
HUH? If you post on Myspace then reading it doesn't make anyone a stalker. There is no privacy on the internet and if "kid" doesn't get that then he probably needs "big brother".
yes there is a clear difference between stalking and "Big Brother"
By the way, there are privacy controls on Myspace (even Facebook) to make your posts on your profile available to only those who you want to see your posts.
Well, I don't think it's being a stalker or "big brother" to be a PARENT. My job is to protect my kids so they don't get into situations over their heads until they're ready to deal with them. I have all of my kids facebook passwords, and I check their accounts from time to time. They aren't allowed to add ANYONE as a friend that they don't know, and their info is limited to friends only. There are lots of creepy people on the internet--kids don't always understand the potential consequences of sharing identifying or inappropriate information.
I don't know about myspace, but Facebook users can configure their privacy settings pretty thoroughly: friends hidden from public view and from each other (so Sally doesn't know Patty is still friends with Janey), etc.
Your child could always just open a new account that you don't know about, too, and delete his cookies and browsing history after each session, in an effort to have some feeling of privacy and autonomy.
Maybe just remind him to not accept names he's not 100% sure he knows.
Is there a difference between stalking and being a big brother?
scenario: teenager says don't stalk me on myspace as I don't want people to know what I'm posting. adult says it's being a big brother and looking out for them.
Is there a difference or not?
Child molesters never say "I am a stalker", they always use a phoney front. Unless it is a parent or concerned blood relative, then "big brother" is a stalker. A concerned adult friend would report real concerns to a teen's parents, or should MYOB.
I don't know about myspace, but Facebook users can configure their privacy settings pretty thoroughly: friends hidden from public view and from each other (so Sally doesn't know Patty is still friends with Janey), etc.
Your child could always just open a new account that you don't know about, too, and delete his cookies and browsing history after each session, in an effort to have some feeling of privacy and autonomy.
Maybe just remind him to not accept names he's not 100% sure he knows.
I let my high schoolers have pretty much free reign, but they're responsible kids with level heads, and I have every reason to trust them as long as they use the appropriate privacy settings and don't add strangers. I have younger kids who like to play facebook games like farmville, etc. with their friends. They use the internet under supervision, plus we have nanny blocks for inappropriate content. My big concern (even with the privacy settings) is when the younger kids "like" something, and their account is listed on that page. You'd be amazed at the number of adult strangers that have asked to "friend" them. That's why I go in to delete those requests.
I let my high schoolers have pretty much free reign, but they're responsible kids with level heads, and I have every reason to trust them as long as they use the appropriate privacy settings and don't add strangers. I have younger kids who like to play facebook games like farmville, etc. with their friends. They use the internet under supervision, plus we have nanny blocks for inappropriate content. My big concern (even with the privacy settings) is when the younger kids "like" something, and their account is listed on that page. You'd be amazed at the number of adult strangers that have asked to "friend" them. That's why I go in to delete those requests.
Oh, I see. I didn't think about the "Like" thing. That's awful about the strangers' requests.
There's this new offering from FB that would send all new requests to a Pending folder, though it doesn't seem helpful in the long run.
I don't see why FB doesn't provide a "Not accepting new friends" blocking interface.
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