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I'm 34 and i'm gay and i've only been with one guy and that was four years ago and i've been out since age 25, known i was gay since i was a child and i an NOT ugly, as a matter of fact i've been told I'm one of the best looking gay guys in my community.
I happen to believe that sex is meant to be with someone you actually love and i am deeply spiritual and believe that sex is not the main purpose in life. I do not LOOK DOWN on people who have sex with lots of people, i just think that we have different beliefs.
Yet for some reason i can't donate blood and i'm told that i'm a 'pervert' by people on discussion boards the very second i reveal that i'm gay and it's assumed that i have aids etc.
I'm 34 and i'm gay and i've only been with one guy and that was four years ago and i've been out since age 25, known i was gay since i was a child and i an NOT ugly, as a matter of fact i've been told I'm one of the best looking gay guys in my community.
I happen to believe that sex is meant to be with someone you actually love and i am deeply spiritual and believe that sex is not the main purpose in life. I do not LOOK DOWN on people who have sex with lots of people, i just think that we have different beliefs.
Yet for some reason i can't donate blood and i'm told that i'm a 'pervert' by people on discussion boards the very second i reveal that i'm gay and it's assumed that i have aids etc.
Anyone who is different is labeled as something with a stigma. I wouldn't be able to give blood either because I am on so many meds. Don't let it get you down. Be who you are, but don't go announcing it on forums. Why? Because believe it or not the stigma exists. If you want to deal with it, fine. If you don't want to deal with it, say nothing.
Because some in the gay community are. And those with an agenda highlight any negative they can find towards a community.
Long Explanation:
Our gender roles place men into the sex crazed aggressor role. Those who believe in strict gender roles are unable to think about men as anything less than horny sex crazed maniacs. Some religions even command women to cover up so as not to tempt a man since his sex drive is so uncontrollable! Notice it's always based around gay male promiscuity. It's never lesbians because women are taught to be repressed sexually and not to seek it out. Thus two women would, in strict traditional gender role terms, be in a sexless relationship.
It's a garbage stereotype. There are just as many straight people who are just as promiscuous.
A gay friend of mine says it's because "those kind of people" only hear the word "sex" in homosexual, and they think that's all it's about.
A minority of my gay friends are promiscuous. Most have been in long term relationships for a decade or more. More of my straight friends have been promiscuous.
Funny those same people don't only hear the word "sex" in heterosexual.
A gay friend of mine says it's because "those kind of people" only hear the word "sex" in homosexual, and they think that's all it's about.
A minority of my gay friends are promiscuous. Most have been in long term relationships for a decade or more. More of my straight friends have been promiscuous.
Funny those same people don't only hear the word "sex" in heterosexual.
What you said....plus it's a convenient excuse to justify bigotry and/or homophobia.
I'm 34 and i'm gay and i've only been with one guy and that was four years ago and i've been out since age 25, known i was gay since i was a child and i an NOT ugly, as a matter of fact i've been told I'm one of the best looking gay guys in my community.
I happen to believe that sex is meant to be with someone you actually love and i am deeply spiritual and believe that sex is not the main purpose in life. I do not LOOK DOWN on people who have sex with lots of people, i just think that we have different beliefs.
Yet for some reason i can't donate blood and i'm told that i'm a 'pervert' by people on discussion boards the very second i reveal that i'm gay and it's assumed that i have aids etc.
Ohhh... Here we go again.....
Did someone say you were ugly? Why the qualifier?
I commend you. You sound like a decent guy RL. I think you're a good guy that has a lot of issues you need to work out with yourself. That being said, why do you take to heart every word from other people? You know that you will receive opposition here on CD, yet you continue to take it personally. Sorry to say, it comes with the terretory.
Nobody assumes you have AIDS, but most people on CD who are familiar with your posts (gay and straight alike) agree that you need professional help. People have given you sound advice on MANY of the threads you have started, yet you continue with the victim mentality. You seem to only see the negative. I wish you the best in the future.
Probably because the only exposure they have, that they know of, is seeing "Pride Parades". Which are nothing to be proud of.
Yeah, I lived in San Francisco. While the gays in the Castro throw a Halloween party like no other, I don't understand the parades. I'm fine with the rainbow flag, but I don't even like the Fillmore St. parade so it's not necessarily a gay thing on my part. Someone who is gay please tell me...why do you need these parades?
Yeah, I lived in San Francisco. While the gays in the Castro throw a Halloween party like no other, I don't understand the parades. I'm fine with the rainbow flag, but I don't even like the Fillmore St. parade so it's not necessarily a gay thing on my part. Someone who is gay please tell me...why do you need these parades?
I've never been to a parade mainly because they don't have any where i'm from but i've never felt the need too... i don't see anything wrong with them either.
I commend you. You sound like a decent guy RL. I think you're a good guy that has a lot of issues you need to work out with yourself. That being said, why do you take to heart every word from other people? You know that you will receive opposition here on CD, yet you continue to take it personally. Sorry to say, it comes with the terretory.
Nobody assumes you have AIDS, but most people on CD who are familiar with your posts (gay and straight alike) agree that you need professional help. People have given you sound advice on MANY of the threads you have started, yet you continue with the victim mentality. You seem to only see the negative. I wish you the best in the future.
No, actually i'm considered to be a very good looking guy. guys and girls hit on me all the time.
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