why do people 'debate' homosexuality when it's an unchosen trait? (regular, gay people)

[Rlarson21]

well, since i never wanted to be gay in the first place i wonder whom someone is addressing when they say they 'disagree' with homosexuality.

since i spent years of my life trying to convince myself i wasn't gay and to try to 'be' straight obviously i didn't choose to be gay.

so WHO are they disagreeing with? it can't be with the gay PEOPLE since it wasn't chosen. That's like saying i disagree with black skin or i disagree with left handedness.

are they disagreeing with God or Nature?

does it make sense to disagree with reality as it exists?

[jjrose]

You know, it took some people a long time to accept that the earth was not flat. I kinda' figure this is something similar.

[pknopp]

I wouldn't say it's always unchosen. Not that I care either way.

[jjrose]

Originally Posted by pknopp

I wouldn't say it's always unchosen. Not that I care either way.

I know some people who chose to be with the same sex, but they consider themselves bisexual.

[cougarvamp]

Some ppl, especially religious ppl believe it is a choice. IMO, I don't care, of you are gay than be gay. It doesn't bother me who you love.

[twinArmageddons]

Because some people are idiots and think sexuality is a choice.

[pknopp]

Originally Posted by twinArmageddons

Because some people are idiots and think sexuality is a choice.

It can be.

[Hot_Handz]

because it is chosen??

[Rlarson21]

Originally Posted by Hot_Handz

because it is chosen??

really, first hand source me just informed you it wasn't. so how can you say that when you've been proven incorrect by a first hand source?

[Vic 2.0]

A better question is, "What does it matter, whether people are born gay or straight?" I wasn't born a songwriter, and yet my choosing to write songs has somehow escaped the wide net of nationwide disdain. None of you were born City-Data regulars. Yet, here you are, giving nature the middle finger.

We should all be ashamed for wearing clothes, because we were born nudists. This is the argument you're making when you think "Gays were not born gay!" means anything whatsoever.

I don't think people (namely teenagers) should commit homosexual acts if they don't at least feel like they're homosexuals. But then, I don't think anyone should commit sexual acts with anyone they don't plan to be with for the rest of their lives. This puts gays and homosexual activity on the same level as "straights" and heterosexual activity... which of course is what the bigots out there really have the problem with, truth be told. Equality of any sort.