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The overuse of the word hero is one of my pet peeves.
The best thing for all involved is almost always to let the nutcase rant as long as ranting is all he is doing.
No, the best thing to do is to go talk to the person being abused, so that they can feel more secure and know that other people don't condone the hate the ranter is hurling.
Standing up for someone being abused is heroic. Just ignoring it/trying to pretend its not happening/thinking its just words so it doesn't matter is cowardice and part of the problem. Words can cause as much pain and long-term consequences as physical attacks - think about all the teenagers committing suicide because of online bullying for instance. Anyone who stands by and lets something like that happen is part of the problem.
I truly believe this guy picked that day to kill somebody so no matter what move anybody made, he would perceive it as a move against him. He would probably still bring out his knife.
I think about why anyone would sit and ignore a person hurling abuse or even suggest this as an option. My guess is that it is safe to assume that an abuser will act when somebody makes a push against him. There is no opportunity to asses if the abuser really intends to cause physical harm. But if you ignoring the abuser, you are taking a wait and see approach. However, this is a risky move because what is not taken into consideration is the distance between the victim and the abuser. Ignoring an abuser may be perceived as "standing ground" or being defiant.
I think "ignore him" should really be "make a move away from the abuser." By moving away you accomplish two things, you put distance between each other and you have a chance to evaluate if he intends to continue his abuse.
This situation is extremely sad and shocking.
Maybe he picked that day to kill someone or maybe he's someone who has a hair-trigger rage response, we don't know. I don't know if it was possible for the women to move away from him, but the right thing to do is to support the women - helping them move away might work but then the abuser can just follow so talking to them is said to be the best thing to do. There is a cartoon strip explaining what to do in such situations.
Maybe he picked that day to kill someone or maybe he's someone who has a hair-trigger rage response, we don't know. I don't know if it was possible for the women to move away from him, but the right thing to do is to support the women - helping them move away might work but then the abuser can just follow so talking to them is said to be the best thing to do. There is a cartoon strip explaining what to do in such situations.
That is a very good suggestion so thank you for sharing it. I do support rallying around the victim. The important thing is to be aware and to give oneself an opportunity to assess rather than going full in to the abuser.
This person obviously had a problem but all this hateful anti-Muslim rhetoric coming from a president helps push them over the top, if the president is living in fear then why shouldn't he. We saw the same thing during the election with the crazy person killing those people at the Planned Parenthood Clinic in Colorado because of all the ridiculous statements.
They are not much different than the Islamic terrorists that recruit for the holy war. Words have meaning particularly when they come from a president.
Goes to show... You can say anything you want....
The 2nd amendment is there for all those that try and get physical to stop you from speaking your mind.
Yes, this went down, and only idiots think the 2nd amendment is small arms/guns.
The reality is, 2 people are dead, and you, and others, like some vulture want to feast on it for partisan purposes.
The reality is you people lied again. You tried to make this about Trump, you tried to pin this on conservatives and you tried to turn this into some petty pity political defense for Islam and now that your rhetoric has been aired and the truth shows you to be wrong, you want to jump back to the "lets not worry about the details, people died!"
Run off to a candle light vigil and moan and cry about how you cared so much about these people that you spent your time urinating on them for your political goals.
Make no mistake, you could give a rats arse about these peoples deaths.
Goes to show... You can say anything you want....
The 2nd amendment is there for all those that try and get physical to stop you from speaking your mind.
Yes, this went down, and only idiots think the 2nd amendment is small arms/guns.
Thinking about bringing your Abrams out next time someone pisses you off?
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