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Considering the discrimination trans people face on a daily basis, it comes as no surprise that trans people are overlooked when it comes to dating. Two Canadian researchers recently asked almost 1000 cisgender folks if they would date a trans person in a new study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. This is the first study to ever attempt to quantify the extent of trans discrimination when it comes to romantic and sexual relationships.
958 participants (all but seven cisgender, ranging in age from 18 to 81, with an average age of 26) were asked to indicate which genders they would consider dating. The options included cisgender man, cisgender woman, trans man, trans woman, or genderqueer, and participants could select as many genders as they wanted.
Only 12% of all participants selected “trans woman” and/or “trans man.”
This is the one thing that they can't guilt-force society to change. You can pretend white supremacy and white privilege exist and force affirmative action, you can pass anti-white discrimination laws, etc...but you can't force people to want to do something they don't want to do. 98% of men and women don't want to date a tranny, and it's killing them. Even if you were to somehow brainwash society into getting a few "straight" cis men to accept dating a trans, there are always 9 million other men waiting in line for the girl that you passed up for the shemale. It's nature and literally impossible to change this.
This is the one thing that they can't guilt-force society to change. You can pretend white supremacy and white privilege exist and force affirmative action, you can pass anti-white discrimination laws, etc...but you can't force people to want to do something they don't want to do. 98% of men and women don't want to date a tranny, and it's killing them. Even if you were to somehow brainwash society into getting a few "straight" cis men to accept dating a trans, there are always 9 million other men waiting in line for the girl that you passed up for the shemale. It's nature and literally impossible to change this.
So what if it was a white tranny? Would you like it better then?
We can all be accepting and kind while not necessarily wanting to date a trans person.
Nothing huge there.
I mean, I can be nice to women and not want to date them because I am heterosexual and prefer men, no?
I can be nice to short guys, tall guys, fat guys, skinny guys, guys with black hair, guys with red hair, etc... and not want to date ALL OF THEM.
I cannot say that I'd be out searching for a trans guy to date if I was single, but if I met a guy and he turned out to be trans and I really liked him, I guess I'd have to think about dating a trans guy. I'm not looking to have any more kids, so it's not like that would be a complication. I'm not freaked about someone being born with female genitals or that causing "the gay" to infest me or anything.
I would be more concerned, to put it bluntly, with the person not having the appropriate genitals for ME... which would be a penis because I like men and I like sex with men.
Thankfully, I am married to a cis-gender male and this is a non issue for me.
I actually know trans people who won't date OTHER trans people. A friend of mine is a trans woman who is a lesbian. She would like a partner who could one day carry a child. She plans a reassignment, but she will keep sperm saved for having kids one day.
Sooo... she does want a cis-gender female partner, and I can understand why. She has been successful dating so far because most of the women she has dated are bisexual and don't care either way.
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Yes -- accepting and tolerating doesn't mean you have to date or marry them.
YIKES --
I accept them and am kind to them, but this should really be an eye opener for people wanting to transition. They may be better off just staying their own gender and dating gay men or women instead. I feel for these people, but no wonder so many end up killing themselves after surgery. It has to be a lonely life.
I can see it now. Some normal kid will be asked by a transgender to the prom, he will decline and be publicly shamed and possibly suspended. Either this or a similar situation will happen. Give it time.
Yes -- accepting and tolerating doesn't mean you have to date or marry them.
YIKES --
I was thinking the same, who cares if a guy wants to dress and live his life like a woman but if that guy that is now a woman tricks a guy into bed then oopsie there is something in the bed that at least one wasn't suspecting that is when people get beat up or worse.
I don't know but it seems like a pre op. or post op. trans person should be having a conversation pretty early in any relationship they enter into.
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