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Ben’s comment raise an interesting question. Is homosexuality a conscious decision or inherent characteristic?
In some folks it is. Some people just like to have pleasure with certain people regardless of gender. I think it can be an issue you're born with (you've always been attracted to the opposite sex) and there's some who just choose to be attracted to the opposite sex for preference.
Everyone is different, so even being raised the same way can produce different results. I don't know what age I was I decided I was straight. However, if people think that one is born gay, then I think they are wrong though I don't really have any scientific evidence to back that claim up.
For those wondering, I am a guy (a White one born on 9/4/1986, at that).
Here is the thing, it's not so much being born gay, but more at some point we all came to realization as what sex/gender we were attracted to. Some find members of both sexes attractive. I strongly believe there are far more people that are attracted to both sexes (bi-sexual), then attracted to exclusively the same sex (gay). The choice comes in to play when acting out on those attractions or desires.
I have a female friend that was gay in her mid teens up until her late 20s, today she is married to a man and has 4 kids. Ive talked about this with her in the past, she said it was a phase she went thru and it passed.
And then there is the exact opposite scenario. Oklahoma state senator and father of four caught in motel room with underage boy. How do you know you female friend is still not having homosexual relations on the sly?
I have a female friend that was gay in her mid teens up until her late 20s, today she is married to a man and has 4 kids. Ive talked about this with her in the past, she said it was a phase she went thru and it passed.
Or she could just be bisexual and chose a man to spend her life with. I was the same way. I am still bisexual, even if I married a man. So is your friend, assuming she was actually "gay", and was so for more than a decade. A phase is a relationship or two, not a decade or more.
"Choice" is a word chosen to imply there is a lack of moral responsibility for those who "choose" wrongly. It is only used to put LGBT people on the defensive.
Ignore such questions - they are baiting and trolling in the worst way. Nobody has to defend his/her life to those who are judging them.
A person's orientation is a choice. There, as far as I know, not any gene that makes a person gay, straight, or bisexual. It's more of your surroundings (where you are raised, who you are raised with, and how you are raised).
It`s an established fact that young people choose to be gay because they like to be harassed and beat up.
Or she could just be bisexual and chose a man to spend her life with. I was the same way. I am still bisexual, even if I married a man. So is your friend, assuming she was actually "gay", and was so for more than a decade. A phase is a relationship or two, not a decade or more.
I totally agree with this scenario. My husband and I are good friends with a pair of married lesbians who both had long hetero marriages (with children) prior to meeting and falling in love with each other. They've been married for 27 years now, and both acknowledge now that they realize they were both bisexual to begin with. The heart want what the heart wants.
I think its a learned behavior based on your environment growing up and you do have the choice to act on it or not.
I have yet to see evidence of the "gay gene" that the left insists there is and is holding hope for.
When someone approaches your eye with a finger, do you choose to blink because you were raised around other blinkers?
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