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Well some kids may not want to tell their mother since they have told her they are not sexually active and the mother thinks they are not lying to her. Duh. Teens keep less important secrets from their parents. Does that make them bad parents or just parents who have teenagers?
I wonder how many other girls have had secret abortions and the parents still do not know. Usually the secrets of our life do eventually come out, one way or another.
Well some kids may not want to tell their mother since they have told her they are not sexually active and the mother thinks they are not lying to her. Duh. Teens keep less important secrets from their parents. Does that make them bad parents or just parents who have teenagers?
I wonder how many other girls have had secret abortions and the parents still do not know. Usually the secrets of our life do eventually come out, one way or another.
You missed the point.
Open communication between parent and child prevents things like this. If you have parents who are sticks and demand that you be an absolute angel at all times who does no wrong and walks on water, it just lends itself to more likelihood that the child will stray. In this case, the mother should be disappointed in herself for not having an open line of communication with the child. She has herself to blame for the child apparently not feeling comfortable enough to bring it to the mother's attention.
I've never gone in with someone for an abortion so I'm asking this question. If you go in for an abortion, does the clinic ask the patient to sign waivers or other documents stating that what they've filled out in the questionare is true? Isn't these legal documents? isn't it against the law or voids the documents if a minor signs such documents without the approval or knowledge of the parent or guardian?
Open communication between parent and child prevents things like this. If you have parents who are sticks and demand that you be an absolute angel at all times who does no wrong and walks on water, it just lends itself to more likelihood that the child will stray. In this case, the mother should be disappointed in herself for not having an open line of communication with the child. She has herself to blame for the child apparently not feeling comfortable enough to bring it to the mother's attention.
My opinion and I stick to it.
How many teenage girls have you raised? Or boys, for that matter?
I've never gone in with someone for an abortion so I'm asking this question. If you go in for an abortion, does the clinic ask the patient to sign waivers or other documents stating that what they've filled out in the questionare is true? Isn't these legal documents? isn't it against the law or voids the documents if a minor signs such documents without the approval or knowledge of the parent or guardian?
The legality of getting an abortion without parents' consent varies from state to state. If it's legal, which it apparently is in Washington, it's legal.
How many teenage girls have you raised? Or boys, for that matter?
Your question is moot. Everyone's been a child at one point which makes them quite capable of speaking about open communication with one's parents.
When I was 16, my mother had a policy about no girls in the house unsupervised, and if she or my dad were there I had to leave the door wide open. You know what I did? I invited them over when my parents were both at work. Why did I do that? Because her rule was silly. She assumed that I was out to get sex when I wasn't. In fact, I never even kissed a girl until I turned 18 - my choice, I never felt bonded to anyone until that age. It was all a game for me. The girls I invited to my house played video games and watched rap videos on BET. Besides, if I were really going to have sex with a female, what would make them think I would have sex with them in my house rather than theirs, or some hotel? Never once did she sit down with me and try to understand my feelings on the matter. Never once did she talk to me about her fears. Never once did she try to have a two-way conversation to make an educated decision about how to handle the situation; she just threw down knee-jerk rules. As a result, I did the opposite out of spite.
During one of these non-sexual visits something happened that might have caused me to die. I actually went into minor shock at one point. It wasn't the girl's fault, it was totally mine. It talked to others about it and what I should do...got medical advice from a couple of people who told me that I had nothing to worry about, that it wasn't what I thought it was, and that I would heal. So I never went to the doctor and I never told my mother - who happens to work in the nursing profession. I did heal partially, but I had to tread very carefully for about a month, including some extra thick clothing. Eventually it healed all the way, but it changed me. To this day she still doesn't know.
Now, had she talked to me and tried to understand why I wanted to spend time with the opposite gender, and learned to trust me when I told her that I wasn't having sex until I was ready, it's a sure bet that I would have at least told her what happened that night and asked her for guidance. I would have felt comfortable with her advice knowing what was happening to me and the best thing for me to do. Open communication.
Trust me - I know. It sucks when you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents about something that scary because you know they'll blow a fuse and won't understand what you're going through.
People do not need to forget not only are there physical things done to a minors body in an abortion there are mental things. Abortion denies life to the unborn and usualy carries mental scars. Pro abortionist only care about denying life, once the abortion is done they do not care about the mental damage
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