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I'm 18 & my best friend is 19. She's about 5-6 months along, due July 14th. Sorry if my calculations are wrong on how many months along she is. Anyways, we're both in college & work full time....I'm exhausted myself without being pregnant so I can only imagine how she feels. My question to all of you ladies who are/have been pregnant, what can I do to help her? I could ask but I know she'll say she has it all under control. Which I know she does, but the baby's father isn't in the picture so I want to help relieve as much stress as possible for her. Any suggestions are welcome! Thanks a lot!
that is very thoughtful of you. I really appreciated meals being brought over every other day after my first was born. You could make some healthy meals to freeze, or even organize friends to take turns bringing meals.
that is very thoughtful of you. I really appreciated meals being brought over every other day after my first was born. You could make some healthy meals to freeze, or even organize friends to take turns bringing meals.
So silly but I never even thought about that...and I'm the one who cooks for my family of 9! Lol....I'll deff do that! :-D Any meal you particularly liked?
When summer hits she will be miserable. Get her some flip flops as her feet might be too swollen to wear her favorite shoes. Get her some baby or body powder as her baby bump will make leg creases hot and sweaty. And get some maderma cream for stretch marks.
help her carrying things and definitely with lifting things.
does she have anybody to be her support team? Who is gonna take her to hospital? doctor visits? actual birth? be sure to encourage prenatal doctor visits. vitamins. does she have any What happens When you give birth books? She probably is scared and unsure of what is ahead of her.
The best thing you can do is offer her moral support. If she is truly alone she would appreciate a good friend and LISTEN to her. If she wants to talk to adoption agency or atty encourage her to seek the best help available and don't judge her.
Every woman should have a close friend like you. Remember what goes around comes around.
I've been involved in adoption for many years. I have found that many young girls are truly in denial right up until birth. One girl I helped didn't even know about water breaking and refused to get prenatal care even tho the adoption agency was going to pay for it. The night before she gave birth she called me to say she was losing control of her bladder. Of course it was her water breaking.
I think you are already doing that..you are being a friend.
I think right now above anything else she will continue to need your moral support. When it comes time for her to take the LaMaze classes if her family is not available you can maybe be there as her coach.
With you in her corner she is going to be alright.
I've been involved in adoption for many years. I have found that many young girls are truly in denial right up until birth. One girl I helped didn't even know about water breaking and refused to get prenatal care even tho the adoption agency was going to pay for it. The night before she gave birth she called me to say she was losing control of her bladder. Of course it was her water breaking.
There's not much you can do to help right now. Being pregnant is the easy part. The biggest help you can give is after the baby is born.
Go to her house and watch the baby so she can take a shower and sleep. It's exhausting taking care of a baby---even when there are two parents. There will be a point where she absolutely will need sleep. Helping her get some sleep during the first three months will be a huge help.
You can also be a big help by cleaning her house for her when it gets out of control. One of the biggest adjustments to being a new mother is how difficult it is to keep up with the housework.
Thanks everyone for the suggestions....they're totally things I can do & aren't gonna break the bank. :-D I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
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