How would you deal if your daughter/son came home pregnant or with a pregnant gf? (head, babies)

[Lucidkitty]

How would you handle such a situation if the child was under 18? What if they did not want to carry the child to term and requested you sign off on an abortion? Or on the other end what if they wanted to give the child up for adoption?

[lauramc27]

I would hope that I would support my daughter in whatever choice she wants to make. I would not try and sway her one way or another because this is her life, her choice. I may not agree with her choice, but I would have to respect it.

I also hope, that I will never have to have this conversation.

[JustJulia]

I believe that we have the kind of relationship where she would tell me that she was pregnant, rather than getting an abortion just so we wouldn't know.

If she wanted to keep the baby, we would talk about her relationship with the father (steady boyfriend vs. random hookup) and the feasability of her being able to do that (age, job, school). If keeping the baby seemed like the wrong decision or if she didn't want to, I would encourage adoption. I would hope she would choose open adoption in that case, but that is because of my selfish feelings.

[Lucidkitty]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

I believe that we have the kind of relationship where she would tell me that she was pregnant, rather than getting an abortion just so we wouldn't know.

If she wanted to keep the baby, we would talk about her relationship with the father (steady boyfriend vs. random hookup) and the feasability of her being able to do that (age, job, school). If keeping the baby seemed like the wrong decision or if she didn't want to, I would encourage adoption. I would hope she would choose open adoption in that case, but that is because of my selfish feelings.

Are they allowed julia? I always thought parental consent was needed or are some states don't require it?

[no kudzu]

honestly? I would tell them I am not in any position to raise or financially help with any more children. I would listen and encourage them to really talk freely about what they expect. If they feel making an adoption plan is something they can handle I would be supportive. If they choose termination of pregnancy I would volunteer to take them there and I would encourage some kind of talk counselling to help them deal with their choice.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Lucidkitty

Are they allowed julia? I always thought parental consent was needed or are some states don't require it?

In Illinois, I believe notification is required but not consent.

[Lucidkitty]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

In Illinois, I believe notification is required but not consent.

Abortion Laws for Teens by State Yeah you are right.

[MsAnnThrope]

I'd have them off to the clinic so fast their head would spin.

The clinic offers counselling first to ensure a termination is the right choice.

Whatever they decide (with counselling) I would support but I would certainly encourage a termination in the first instance.

I just don't think babies should be having babies.

[gimme it]

I would be very sad and strongly encourage an abortion.

[90sman]

I would strongly advise against the abortion and instead encourage putting the baby up for adoption as abortion is murder. But if my daughter got pregnant or if my son got a girl pregnant, and they wanted to keep the baby, I'd suggest they get married and would give my child permission to do so to avoid having an illegitimate birth. It isn't right to have children out of wedlock. Unless you were raped, if you get pregnant, you get married. But in the state I live in, teenagers can get married without permission if they're pregnant anyway.