Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I suspect the person I am currently dating is a gambling addict. The last three times we have had lengthy discussions, he has brought up betting on football.
Now I have known people who bet in football pools or other forms of gambling - and I have done it myself - but it has always been the sort of thing that comes up in conversation once a year. I last saw this guy last Sunday, and as we watched football and chatted I learned he knew the line for every single game being played that day.
I am prepared to give this guy the boot (or at least tell him we can hang out every now and again but we will never be a couple), but I want to make sure I am not being an alarmist. I am unfamiliar with gambling as a vice. Is it unusual to be this preoccupied with gambling, or am is he merely a football junkie making conversation? I don't see myself with this guy long term anyway, but he's fun for now. That said, everytime I hear something about gambling I start wondering if this guy is going to cost me money someday... I don't pay for a man's bad habits.
SOoo, who here can talk to me about these gamblers?
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
9,516 posts, read 20,007,791 times
Reputation: 9418
I think if there's enough there to give you suspicion there's much more under the surface you don't see. This sort of thing is why I rely on...listen to....trust....act on...my intuition....instincts....gut-feelings.....They haven't steered me wrong yet.
I think if there's enough there to give you suspicion there's much more under the surface you don't see. This sort of thing is why I rely on...listen to....trust....act on...my intuition....instincts....gut-feelings.....They haven't steered me wrong yet.
I don't have experience with gamblers but I would imagine their moods would give it away at some point.....tension, anger, extreme happiness/spending, etc. However, addicts can be very good at hiding their sickness so you may never see those. I would go with my gut....it may be putting up red flags for good reason.
I dated a gambling addict I met in Las Vegas (surprise, surprise). He had the ability to gamble for hours--like 20 hour stretches with the occasional bathroom and food break. He talked about cards a lot but it wasn't clear he was an addict until he and his friends told me how long he'd be at the tables. He missed dinner to gamble and that was it for me and him as a couple. You are dead-on seeniorita! My friend would go from intense and agitated to sheer exhaustion. He couldn't keep up a good veneer with all that compulsion going on underneath.
Well I don't want to minimize it, but growing up I knew many guys who bet on football every Sunday, college basketball and college football too. I used to bet along with them when I was with my first boyfriend. However, we were all in our late teens -early 20's. I'm not sure if they still do it today or not.
I guess if it were me, I would want to know if he needs to have his money riding on something all the time, even when his life is full of other activities and how much does he actually bet (is he responsible).
Well I don't want to minimize it, but growing up I knew many guys who bet on football every Sunday, college basketball and college football too. I used to bet along with them when I was with my first boyfriend. However, we were all in our late teens -early 20's. I'm not sure if they still do it today or not.
I guess if it were me, I would want to know if he needs to have his money riding on something all the time, even when his life is full of other activities and how much does he actually bet (is he responsible).
If I viewed this thing as having potential as being something long term I might inquire about these things, but eh, I don't know whether its worth bothering.
Does he gamble on any other sports? Basketball? Baseball? Nascar? Hockey?
If it's just football, I wouldn't concern myself so much. But if it's multiple sports (year round), then I would be concerned. And like any addict - they will deny, deny, deny. If you're not really invested in this relationship, no point in even trying to "work it out". Just my opinion.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
