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I'm so sorry you feel that way, but there is so much else to live for. Relationships are glorified in society but don't forget about everything else in the world. Also, keep in mind that a lot of unattractive people have boyfriends/girlfriends.
Trust me, your physical appearance is NOT the problem, nor is your financial status.
It's your attitude. It downright sucks.
It's okay for him to reject all ugly ladies, but if they were to do the same to him (and do it first), she'd probably not only be considered ugly, but a b___ as well.
Plastic surgery? Hard to believe that you would contemplate ending your life because of something that can be changed. Other, deeper problems must exist.
Learn to play the guitar and start a band - it's worked for countless musicians! I mean - have you really looked at some of the famous rock stars.... and their gorgeous supermodel girlfriends and wives? But even where I am from, the local musicians (unknowns, starving artist types) are lucky with the ladies.
Seriously, though - if you focus less on your outward appearance and start DOING more with your mind and talents, at some point a woman will find you appealing and worth her time. No woman that I know, including myself, finds insecurity and desperation sexy or attractive. Even physically attractive people become hugely UNattractive when they exhibit a lack of talent, social ability, lack of intelligence, lack of compassion, thoughtfulness, too much of an ego or too body conscious, etc.
Develop yourself, and your looks won't matter. Your mind, your heart, your efforts, the things you DO, etc. Those are the things that ultimately attract the right kind of partners in life.
yeah I can't really believe the "I can't afford plastic surgery" claim. It's not THAT expensive. Save up, man! Or go back to college/grad school or better yet get some more actual skills at a community college or technical school to get a better income, then get surgery
TBH even average to pretty considered people feel how you are feeling. The internet, "behind the screen" can give people more harsh judgement(minus the obvious trolls) in opinion because of being non face to face could be what you are experiencing.
Other factors;
-There's more men on dating sites, chances are because of the larger selection of people you're going ignored or treated more harsh.
-You may be connecting with the person but is it only because of their looks? If so there's part of the problem.
This isn't mean to be a ploy for sympathy, but I am woefully ugly.
I have tried time and time again. I used to love connecting with people online. There was often a real spark there until they saw my pic.
Why should I continue to live with such an obstacle? I don't blame people for cutting me off as they are only human, but I am only human too. There was one chick recently who I really gelled with, but as soon as she got my pic, that was the end of it.
So while I accept the Darwinistic crap that life just isn't fair, I really want to just end my life. Why can't people in my situation at least have the right to die as painlessly as possible, without having to resort to actually committing suicide? All the self help and Jesus crap doesn't help people in my situation. I cannot afford therapy and therapy wouldn't help anyway. I cannot afford plastic surgery either. I'm already past my expiration date and feel that most of today's women would just see me as an "eww creeper".
I only ever wanted to just gel with people and connect with others like anyone else would. It's human nature. Euthanasia should be allowed for people in my situation. Some in my situation turn to rage and take it out on others. I wonder how many of those people could have been helped by the option of euthanasia and how many innocent lives could have been saved.
Have you read Edmond Rostand’s “Cyrano de Bergerac”? Inner beauty is very sexy and appealing to many women. They might not understand it right away just like in the book but if you think outside of the box you can get someone interested in yourself by letting to know you better before they see you. Also maybe finding a very nice photographer can help you to look your best on the picture? Have you tried to look in the mirror every day to focus on something attractive in your face? They say: “You can give up or you can get up!” Your success depends on which way you will choose to go. May God help you to see yourself as a beautiful person!
Also get a kick out of people like Ray Charles, who though totally blind, insisted on only being with gorgeous women. It must be more about status than actual appearance in this case.
Well, since he was blind, I guess he wanted women with soft skins. And women with soft skins tend to be pretty.
(I mean oily, dry, hairy skins on a woman's face aint something regarded as pretty)
Are you physically fit? Being physically fit and healthy (including mentally healthy) looking goes a long way.
All you really need is to be thin and the rest is personality. That is what I would consider bare bone requirements.
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But even where I am from, the local musicians (unknowns, starving artist types) are lucky with the ladies.
