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From my experience when comparing male and female sex drives; The 'average' woman wants quite a bit of sex from one man or perhaps one of several men she has a strong drive for. The 'average' man wants lots of sex with many women.
There are other variations but the above accounts for a large many men and women.
Some men can't understand that a woman not desiring or enjoying sex with him means doesn't mean a woman doesn't enjoy/desire sex in general.
IDK about sl*t-shaming... I really think some guys just don't like the idea the woman doesn't find him attractive. It's probably easier to think she's just afraid of judgement.
Perhaps women in general have more requirements before engaging in sex, even if they desire it as much. There are risks of pregnancy, disease, emotional hurt, etc. And yes, there is some social stigma still, as well as individuals adhering to their personal moral codes. So even if the lust is there, if it's too much risk & the guy is NOT that attractive, then maybe our brains take over again & we make wise decisions in the long run.
Some men can't understand that a woman not desiring or enjoying sex with him means doesn't mean a woman doesn't enjoy/desire sex in general. :p
IDK about sl*t-shaming... I really think some guys just don't like the idea the woman doesn't find him attractive. It's probably easier to think she's just afraid of judgement.
Perhaps women in general have more requirements before engaging in sex, even if they desire it as much. There are risks of pregnancy, disease, emotional hurt, etc. And yes, there is some social stigma still, as well as individuals adhering to their personal moral codes. So even if the lust is there, if it's too much risk & the guy is NOT that attractive, then maybe our brains take over again & we make wise decisions in the long run.
Bless you, orangeapple! Whole post is great; first sentence nails it.
I didn't realize that it was some sort of big secret that women enjoy it as much as we do. Based on the variety of "toys" on the market alone, you'd quickly be able to draw a reasonable inference.
But I question whether it succeeds. The gist is that women indeed crave and desire sex as much as men, but they're deterred from expressing these feelings for fear of being labeled sluts. It also argues that traditional mating roles factor into the question (men are the aggressors, etc.)
But isn't this a tad simplistic?
I think it's spot-on, actually.
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Originally Posted by Wordsmith12
We're living in an increasingly liberal society where many women have no qualms about leading in the bedroom. Not sure which women the author has met, but many of the ones I know talk liberally about their sex lives and admit they like to be in charge in the intimacy department.
Of course. The women you're describing are the ones who do in fact enjoy sex as much as men and are able to express it. I and many other women I know are that way. If you don't think we still live in a society where shaming of women's sexuality is commonplace, however, all you really need to do is read some of the threads on this forum. The sluts-shaming is rampant.
I didn't realize that it was some sort of big secret that women enjoy it as much as we do. Based on the variety of "toys" on the market alone, you'd quickly be able to draw a reasonable inference.
That made me laugh, it's true.
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Of course thye do the only difference is it women are more picky in who brigns out that lust in them while for men she juat has to be somewhat "'f'able" for lack of a better term to get most guys juices flowing..
Beign around my good looking friend for years you see how horny women can actually get around good looking guys..from single to his married friends wives hitting on him..its actually pretty creepy how women act around him lol
Some women desire sex more than some men.
Some women desire sex the same as some men.
Some women desire sex less than some men.
Everyone is unique.
Yep.
But generally men and womens reasons and motives for having sex are significantly different.
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