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Been unemployed for over a year. everyone hates you, your family, your "friends", society, they will all look at you as a loser and a bum. I don't talk to my family anymore and lost most of my "friends". There is no place in society if you are born poor and are unemployed.
this is 10x worse if you're a man though, being a good useful member of society is what male identity is all about.
Been unemployed for over a year. everyone hates you, your family, your "friends", society, they will all look at you as a loser and a bum. I don't talk to my family anymore and lost most of my "friends". There is no place in society if you are born poor and are unemployed.
this is 10x worse if you're a man though, being a good useful member of society is what male identity is all about.
No one hates you, unless you're a financial burden on them.
You really learn who cares about you and who doesn't when you are unemployed. I had an uncle who I thought I was on okay terms with call me lazy behind my back (I overheard him from another room). Also, a friend of the family started smirking when I told her I lost my job.
You have my sympathy, OP. Remember who ridicules you and write them off. They don't belong in your life from this point forward.
I agree with you that unemployed (or otherwise struggling) men are treated much worse. Have you ever heard someone call a woman a loser? I haven't.
If this is a real post, OP, you've got some work to do, and you may have problems that a bunch of strangers on the internet aren't going to solve.
Here are some ideas:
1. Locate a free "job club." Start by checking with your public library. In larger cities, there is often a free job club that meets there once a week. Job seekers share ideas and support each other. If you don't have one, think about starting one.
2. At lot of public libraries have someone who can help with resumes and job applications, again free. Take advantage of that. If it's not available, go back to your high school and seek out help with adult education.
3. If you are low income and have few marketable skills, see what free training your county offers. Again, the reference librarian can help you locate that information if you aren't good at research.
4. Look into working for the temp agencies, like Man Power, etc. and take "anything"
5. If you are unemployed because of a felony, your parole officer should be helping you.
6. If you have problems getting going on this list, seek out your free community mental health services and get evaluated for depression. If you do have depression, you'll need to treat that before you can do much else.
7. If you didn't graduate from high school, get your GED this summer. See the adult basic education people at your high school.
OP, lots of people have lost jobs in the last several years. You are not alone. You are not a loser for that. However, you are a loser if you don't take steps to better your situation, whether that's looking for a job club or seeking counseling.
To others, there are several posters who seem to be trolling. I don't mind it when people truly need help, but I greatly dislike trolls and cat fishers.
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I have an unemployed relative, and no one hates her, but we do get tired of her constant whining about being broke on Facebook. Hopefully you don't do that.
More productive would be to network with friends and relatives to find out about job openings where they work, or to see if they know anyone that could use help around their home to make a few dollars. Meanwhile, I agree that you should get help if you are depressed about this. Depression will only make it worse, especially if that shows up in your interviews.
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