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I think most people come here not to brag about their awesome lives but to gain perspective, to find someone who relates to them, and to possible get a virtual hug. Some, hopefully the majority, have softer problems, and some go through deeper sh*t of abuse, low self esteem, bullying, etc.
So if you came to this forum with something serious like that and what you get is more bullying, there is this awesome resource where you can just text whatever your crisis is, to at least get it off your heart, or, if it's critical, even get help: https://www.ted.com/talks/nancy_lubl...isis_help_line
Well I'm not doubting that link is a great find but I'm sure most of the people on CD try and want to help others.
It's just so hard to determine genuine posters especially new ones from trolls/attention seekers and I'm sure a couple of the genuine ones have suffered because of it
I think if somebody takes offence to something that has been said or quite simply doesn't agree with it they can quite often construe it and take it as " bullying "
In any forum, if you expect to find people who agree with you all of the time, you will be disappointed...
...all of the time.
In the meantime, there may be a perspective or two offered you did not consider before. People on forums don't have to worry so much about a filter, whereas your friends probably do. The feedback here is going to be raw, sometimes, but that isn't always a bad thing.
In any forum, if you expect to find people who agree with you all of the time, you will be disappointed...
...all of the time.
In the meantime, there may be a perspective or two offered you did not consider before. People on forums don't have to worry so much about a filter, whereas your friends probably do. The feedback here is going to be raw, sometimes, but that isn't always a bad thing.
Correct.
Writing off straight talk and earnest advice as "moralists telling you you suck" is a sign that you haven't "gotten it" yet.
From what I've learned in my way-too-many years here is that most everyone has lived through a LOT of sh*t, and they are giving advice based on that.
In any forum, if you expect to find people who agree with you all of the time, you will be disappointed...
...all of the time.
In the meantime, there may be a perspective or two offered you did not consider before. People on forums don't have to worry so much about a filter, whereas your friends probably do. The feedback here is going to be raw, sometimes, but that isn't always a bad thing.
I agree with that. And it's not the disagreeing messages that i was talking about when I meant bullying. it's actually people putting the label "narcissistic" on someone who dares to share that they want a better relationship for themselves. Or a teenager posting a song he made for some lost girlfriend, and a bunch of smartas*es telling him something along the lines of "how do you expect her to return when you post something that stupid". Or someone confessing to something that they did wrong, and feeling bad about it already, and then other smartas*es telling them it's their fault.
Of course there are posters who actually make an effort to see someone's point. But there is also a lot of sarcasm and people saying things just to sound smart. You can't censor people, but you can tell them that maybe posting here is the only outlet some have for venting, and let's be a little more gentle?
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