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buddy had a date tonight but she cancelle don wednesday saying she had to babysit
so he came over and we just hung out
about 45 minutes ago he looked at his snapchat and saw her posting stuff about being at a bar
so clearly she didnt have to baby sit
but im wondering, why lie? like what the hell
he sent her a text saying "im sure the parents like the fact you just took a kid to a bar"
waiting for reply
Unless the buddy is you, what do you care? It wasn't your date. People lie for a variety of reasons. You've lied in your lifetime, too. You'll lie again.
I'm not exactly sure how she lied given that she did actually babysit. Maybe the time changed. Maybe she was unsure of how long it would be. Maybe he's obsessed with her and won't back off. Maybe he's boring. Who knows? Who cares? Sounds like someone's ego was bruised a bit. Get over it.
If you lie to get out of a date than you're a coward because you can't tell the truth. Simple as that!
Out of a date, out of a relationship.......if telling them the truth that they are fat, ugly, etc., you might just crush that person's self-esteem and scar them for life. Telling some little white lies to keep from hurting them is the right thing to do.
He went off on me like WW2. Telling me I was stupid, I wasn't the hottest thing in town (DUH I was 36 at the time, not 26.) RAGING till I slammed the phone down in his ear. Then he called back that night and blew up my recorder.
And I lost my friendship with who introduced us. He went crying to her and she didn't listen to my side of the story.
I could imagine a woman having to babysit, and then getting out of that at 8, and then thinking she's got time to pop in at the bar, but maybe not time for a date, or maybe she doesn't FEEL like doing a date at that point but just wants to decompress by dancing and chilling out, having a drink. Or maybe she just isn't that into him, and they are early enough in dating (sounds like) that she does not need to justify her every move to this dude.
If some guy tried to call me to task for how I spent my time, and got pissed and demanded explanations for something like this, I'd not want to deal with him again. I'm not your child, I live my life. Don't like it, walk on.
But at the same time, the whole "OMG I'm at the barrr...and I'm so cuuuute...lemme post a selfie *giggle* on SNAPCHAT, omg" would repel me, too. I'm not the one to be sharing where I'm at and what I'm doing, unless it's really epic, like I'm on a trip somewhere awesome and I know people would want to see pics or something. Down at the local club? Yeah, nobody cares. Even if you feel really cute in those shoes.
I would thumbs down both of these people. Petty, petty stuff. Heck, maybe they deserved each other.
Often people would rather lie than risk "hurting" someone with the truth. It's psychologically easier on the liar, and the liar assumes it will be easier on the other person.
This is why.
She didn't want to go, and she couldn't tell him she didn't want to go because it's hurtful (she's rejecting him), so she made up a fake obligation to get out of it.
At least she was considering his feelings. If you asked someone on a date and they point blank said, "I"m not interested," wouldn't you be hurt?
She's just dumb to post to Snapchat when she was at the bar.
Last edited by sas318; 06-26-2017 at 01:26 PM..
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