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Well if he actually does this bizarre tradition I'd suggest his next gift be an etiquette book. I'm sure there will be a section advising against gift-grabbing.
IMO, this is borderline "unacceptable communication" between the two of you. If I was our current spouse, I would be questioning this seriously. It has nothing to do with being "insecure or jealous", it's just a respect thing. It's good that you ignore him mostly though.
I would tend to agree with you. The husband has gone through the messages before ( I don’t keep them a secret or hide my phone) & he said it was obvious it was one-sided.
He’s also seen the social media posts from the other ex that I NEVER reply to. He hates social media & said he wishes he didn’t have to see notices about my posts on his phone but can’t “figure out how to shut them off”.
Then he said “If we ever split up? Don’t expect me to act like those two!”
During the divorce, she received what can be considered compensation, and what was determined to be fair.
Nothing else is owed.
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Yes. Asking for a gift.. she seems to see it as he travelled for business unnecessarily for extended times- she had asked him not to do all that because she was left as a single parent w their two kids when he did.. and he did it anyways when it wasn't required and caused the breakup, she feels she should be compensated or acknowledged for all the time and sacrifice she put in. She asked if I see her point and I was afraid to answer Like I said assuming he begins another relationship in the future he would most likely either have to stop, (doubt a girlfriend would like that dynamic) or secretly give her gifts, not a good idea. She said she asked him for a Pandora bracelet and a gift card for their upcoming anniversary. I just said "oh, well, okay.. yea..." basically
There are no more anniversaries for these 2. Only "would've beens".
They've been going through this rig-a-ma-role for the last 6 years? Hah. Well, she's got chutzpa, and he left his balls in the courtroom apparently.
TBH, it requires some real chutzpah to ask for an "anniversary" gift after you've been divorced for 6 years. Personally, I would have moved on by now and buying my own darned presents, and not for any "anniversary" either. What a crock!
Does she hold something over the ex's head? Like...I don't know...visitation rights, something like that? Does she make him think there's a possibility of reviving their relationship?
It's just hard to understand why he's willing to go along with this. He must think he gets something from it...right?
This is one of the most idiotic ideas I have ever heard.
Right?! Talk about narcissism.
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Like I said assuming he begins another relationship in the future he would most likely either have to stop, (doubt a girlfriend would like that dynamic) or secretly give her gifts, not a good idea. She said she asked him for a Pandora bracelet and a gift card for their upcoming anniversary. I just said "oh, well, okay.. yea..." basically
