Confused

[coschristi]

Originally Posted by Beatlebum90

Thank you. I guess this was the end result. As I said its reconfirming. We can close this thread.

I understand you were desperately seeking confirmation that it wasn't all in your head because that's the stage you are in right now & you can go if you want to ... But if I were you I'd stick around for any conversation/posts/replies that may ensue because you have only scratched the surface.

Sometimes I am really bad at identifying/ignoring red flags in my relationships, although I'm good at spotting them in the relationships of others. And I'm not an expert but I suspect that this is a result of being gaslighted ... I have spent so much time questioning myself that I became somewhat numb to my own intuition. And that just can't be healthy.

You might be surprised by what someone else may post that can end up being very relevant for you in your situation. But either way, hopefully the thread won't be closed because of this:

Originally Posted by L8Gr8Apost8

It's not you.

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/sil...weapon-0602145

Originally Posted by foundapeanut

He's a gaslighter https://www.google.com/search?q=gasl...hrome&ie=UTF-8

This is not a marriage. Find someone who appreciates you.

Because sometimes, someone will just be passing through, see the above & it results in this!:

Originally Posted by mlulu23

Wow, thanks for the above link especially as well as the others. This is how my ex husband (in 2 more months I hope) treated me most of the time. I really needed to see this. It all makes more sense now. I would be more apt to call it lying their a$$ off. I hope you get it all sorted out because at least for me it never stopped, only grew worse. And it will take it's toll on you both mentally, and physically. Hugs.

[mlulu23]

"Well, from experience, I can tell you that if you are not crazy now? You will be, shortly."

Ain't that the truth, lol. Btw I miss Manitou Springs. Great little town.

[MurphyPl1]

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[SouthernProper]

Originally Posted by Beatlebum90

I'm New so if this isn't allowed please let know.

I am so confused. Forgive me if I leave out details this could be long.

I have been with the same by for 9 years married for 5. When my husband doesn't like something he brings in all 4 horsemen of the apocalypse. Completely ignores me for weeks months on end. Not days or hours. It's getting longer as time goes by, but he will act differently when other people are around. If you try and point things out he accues me of spinning things around and bating him into an argument.

He always accuess me of lying and brings up everything from the past what he's read on the subject and tells me everyone agree with him (my brother a client excetra) for instance 2 months ago I told him I was taking a day off for work he made sure I was awake early before he left for work. I got up breakfast took our dog for a hike had lunch did the grocery shopping came back home at 1 or 2 he was home pissed in his words tjat nothing was done and I lied. I told him "its 2 in the afternoon the days not over but since uour in a pissy mood I'm going out until you calm down." He's been nasty ever since.

Am I crazy or is the situation crazy?
Thx

There's a very good movie called "Gaslight" ... you might be able to relate to it and learn a few things.
Two can play that game.
Good luck.