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In the style of Jeff foxworthy.
Do you show up with reptiles wrapped around you? Chances are your a threat.
Do you come wrapped in bomb gear? Chances are your a threat.
Do you wear a clown outfit? Chances are your a threat. ( Weird as it seems some folks actually are afraid of clowns)
Do you yell Fire in the hole as you enter the room? Chances are your a threat.
Do you bring your pet alligator to the social event? Chances are your a threat.
And my favorite..Do you wear a trump is great t-shirt? Chances are you lost touch with reality
What do you do/say when you enter a group? Do you immediately start talking and drawing attention to yourself? Or do you wait and observe/listen to what is already going on in the group and then blend in? Your behavior may be coming off more as ill mannered and offensive than intimidating. Do you argue or bring up controversial subjects? Do you listen and avoid interrupting? Do you impose yourself into conversations where you are unwelcome?
OP, why are you making people pull teeth in order to get any info out of you? You posted here asking for help (again!), but are withholding key information (as always). Do you want help or don't you?
Think about your personality characteristics. Are you a know it all? Narcissistic? Loud and overbearing? Do you brag or try to "one up" people all the time? Are you a great listener? Do you talk too much or try to change the subject to what you want to discuss? Do you show empathy for others? There are some great tests to take on line...The Myers Briggs Personality Inventory is free at several sites on line.
We can all stand to learn some things about ourselves and our personality characteristics.
Aww you must be psychic. I'm right to the point and outspoken.
I don't open new accounts to talk shyt. Happy New Year!
I think that insecure people are threatened by others who are very self-assured, have great posture and presence, and are even well dressed and handsome. Perhaps that is it. You don't even have to say a word when you enter a room. Some people just have an inner power that is unsettling to others. Good luck.
Another thing to think about is whether or not you can be trusted to keep information confidential, or could you possibly be viewed as a gossip? One other thing that I have seen in some women who I have worked with is that they are basically insecure, so they play "mind games" to manipulate things to go their way.
You could come right out and ask somebody. Just tell them that you feel a change in the group dynamics when you enter a group setting. Be direct, if you really want to know. Just admit that you are a little paranoid (which is human) and want to know if you are doing something that turns people off. Maybe you aren't turning any one off.
If you do want to learn to relate to people differently, there is a type of group therapy called "Dialectical Behavioral Therapy" that works well. You can read books on it yourself, but it works best in a group setting so that you have others to interact with. I worked in a big organization once that required everyone to take part in an eight week course in this (a couple hours a week). It worked quite well in smoothing out interactions.
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