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Agree with both comments above and will add one, using myself as an example.
I am emotionally available for friendships, incl close ones. But, it is highly unlikely that I would be for a romantic relationship. Been there, done that -- have had several and been married once. Glad I did all of that but I simply don't feel the need for it anymore and I also grasp how low the odds are for a long-term, mutually satisfying, romantic relationship. Very few achieve that and I don't want to spend my last couple decades on this planet mired in all the psycho-drama and low odds that goes with it.
So, yeah, on that level I'm mostly emotionally unavailable and perfectly fine with it.
This pretty much nails it. For platonic friends, too, though, it includes narcissistic people. Someone who just doesn't care to listen to your problems, or doesn't remember or care about your birthday, etc. They're someone who wants to be able to call you while they're killing time in the car, but don't want to - or care about - listening to your problems, etc. They may also just call you for your advice or use you for your expertise, but are just always too busy to ever return the favor.
It all basically boils down to someone who is a narcissist.
if you have mental health issues from an abusive background where a parent or parents were not emotionally available, chances are you will be the same, at least in some regard....as that's what you learned and experienced.
emotionally unavailable seems to be a virulent bacteria infecting our nation, and the world entire. We seem to live in select communities, we encase ourselves in cocoons made up of at least 4,000 sq. ft houses, behind gates, in only the "best" neighborhoods, with people very much like ourselves.....we give attention to only those we deem "worthy" "reliable" "value-driven" .....
emotionally unavailable has nothing to do with sex, it is a clinical syndrome of pain, suspicion, an inability to be vulnerable and allow the vulnerable into your life. it is emptiness. it is no hope. it is a person who takes no prisoners. it is a haggler, a shark, a game player. It could be your boss, your parent, your spouse, any person you might turn to who lacks empathy, kindness or generosity of spirit....... but it's important to classify those who are emotionally unavailable as needing our help and empathy and guidance, we can all help these people find therapy and a pathway to openess through our own open hearts.
^^^^^^ Mr/ms Serious^^^^^^^^^^^^.....well, just find one special niche where you feel safe and able to express concern for others....be it as a volunteer at a soup kitchen, habitat for humanity, a hospital, hospice or even as a volunteer fireman, a red cross volunteer...whatever.....bring your skills to just that one table ...... and watch all the benefits you will reap as your care and concern will manifest....become evident.... by giving you will receive more confidence in yourself and i think you'll become a much more expressive person. try it!!!! i think you will truly like it and find that empathy inside of you
Hmm, I’m generally emotionally unavailable. That doesn’t mean I am unsupportive of your emotions. I just don’t share mine. It takes me a while to want to share that way to someone else.
giving people ammunition for future hurt. Or being vulnerable.
It's just a lame excuse that a female friend once told to a crazy ex-GF when she wouldn't stop calling me...."sorry..urbex is emotional unavailable right now, and he's unlikely to return your messages any time soon!"
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