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Originally Posted by sportslover
Yes, i am in the process of finding a therapist if i can find one that will answer their damn phone but anyway...
I don't really love myself but I am trying. I struggle to stand up for myself and I am an overly sensitive person. I am trying to develop thicker skin but doing so is extremely tough. This makes developing friendships and relationships tough and is something i suck at.
Have you gotten to the point where you love yourself ? Why is it so hard?
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I'm sorry that you say you don't love yourself & I truly hope you find a genuinely effective therpaist who can help you. When one doesn't love oneself, unfortunately, that can result in the person allowing others to treat them any kind of old way, which brings on more unhappiness/misery.
Well, like I said in this other thread someone started about happiness, I said in my post
#28 there something similar to what I'll say here.
https://www.city-data.com/forum/psyc...ppiness-3.html
I can't list everything here, but they overall just taught me a TON about loving myself & being & staying content amongst many good morals & values. I think it's really, really important for parents to instill this tremedouns value/state of mind & raise their children to know how to love themsleves. I think my parents did an outstanding job. They taught me to be happy w/i myself & pray to the Lord for His blessings & strength. They raised me in church, raised me to be mentally strong & to have good self-esteem & self-worth w/o being self-centered about it.
They taught me that no one's any better than I am nor I, them & that I'm important too. I'm an only child & they were great examples that one can be as happy as a clam w/o having all kinds of friends, people around, parties, etc. Other people don't determine my self-worth or happiness. I determine that. So I don't care if I don't have any friends or a significant other & I haven't had friends for years (but do have an SO). I know I'm special.
Now no, I don't suffer from any kind of depression, bipolar disorder, seasonal affective disorder, anxiety, etc., so I feel for those who do & that may makes it difficult to love oneself.
Do you have any friends or family members who are positive, uplifting people who you like spending time w/? I'm not saying it's their responsilbility to make you love yourself, but being in the presence of positive people who love themselves may help somewhat. You can see how they are in life w/ their mindset & how they handle situations that come up in life.