I over heard a conversation...

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Such a difference in age is a pretty provocative subject to talk about with someone you don't know well. It's one thing to say, "I have a new boyfriend" and another to bring up that he's nearly twice her age. It was none of the other girl's business, so why would the first girl mention it?

Years ago I worked with a young woman who was the receptionist for my company. She was friendly and outgoing, but MAN, she had no concept of "too much information" at all. She would just talk and talk and talk about whatever crossed her mind, while I would try to get a word in edgewise so I could say, "Uhhhhh ... excuse me, I have to go." If you asked her "How are you?" she would tell you. "Oh my gosh, I am on my period right now and the cramps are just killing me and I am so bummed out because my boyfriend is coming over later and I know he'll want to have sex but I am just not up to it but I guess I could take some Advil and see how it goes but maybe not because Advil gives me diarrhea" and on and on. I remember one of her monologues in which she managed to disclose to me that she was molested by her mother's boyfriend and had had two abortions (not because of that guy). I started fleeing every time I saw her.

These are the types who end up cornering and tackling a desperate 38 y/o nice guy.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by NotARedneck

These are the types who end up cornering and tackling a desperate 38 y/o nice guy.

Heck I would tackle him too at 32! j/k

[yankeegirl313]

She showed me the pic first, and I looked, and took a second look, and commented about his arms! They were huge!! I mean beefed out huge!
I said, "Wow! His arms!" She smiled, and then the other girl next to me grabbed the phone out of my hand, and started mouthing...

[MMichelle]

The 21 year old woman brought up the age difference. At this stage in her life she may think it's impressive to be dating a man 17 years her senior. If the relationship continues, she will learn that many people object to such an age difference. Others may not object but will find the age difference odd. She will learn to pick her words more carefully.

When I was only a few years older than her, I was with a man 26 years my senior. It was a wonderful relationship. However, some people objected to the age difference, other made judgements, etc., etc. Now - Many, many years later - I still tend toward men 11-15 years older than myself. (& I'm not young!)

Sure I could give you a million reasons why people shouldn't comment on an age difference. But when we do things out of the main streem - we must expect a push back. Not a big deal.

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

Anyway, she told the girl next to me, that she is dating a guy who is 38.

The other girl sitting on the other side of me said,"What? Why? What does your parents say about it?"

She said," Its okay. They love him!"

Why shouldn't they love him? Frankly, this guy has a secure job and a pension he'll be collecting soon. Then its a second, high paid job as a hotel dick. This is likely better than at least 98% of the losers that these girls are usually attracted to.

Besides, these young women should be aiming even higher. I can think of a few guys where I work they should aim for. Never married and nearing retirement.

After a whirlwind romance and marriage, lace their food with a double dose of Viagra and a few weeks of torrid sex should finish them off. Then its:

- A house worth half a mil.
- Half that in life insurance - no tax.
- A pension for life that is better than at least what 40% of people make and it increases by 33% for each child you have - so take fertility drugs! (I can guarantee no paternity tests, either).
- An elderly Mother in Law who is finally happy.

You can't lose. What's the matter with younger women? Torrid romances with young bucks are for losers. Have them move in once you are collecting the pension.

[laorbust61]

When you share good news in your life with semi- or complete strangers, it's a crapshoot. You really don't know what reaction you'll get. Maybe other girl felt comfortable inserting her opinion, because 21 year old was giving out so much detailed information about her boyfriend. When all is said and done, she is 21 and can do what she wants. I had my older man experience in my early 20s. At my current age, I could date someone ten years older than myself and I would feel like their equal in every way. But I have matured, and am more satisfied with my life at this point.

[Whyte Byrd]

To some that young, the thought of dating someone that old grosses them out. Often, older people are viewed as perverted if they date younger. With all the cases of pervs in the news, it's really no wonder.

[ocpaul20]

OK, another perspctive:

If you are a man of 38, wouldn't you love a relationship with a 21 year old?
I have been there and done that and yes it was nice(and I was not married or in a relationship at the time either). However, there is something called the age-gap and, for me I realised that it would be really strange going out and meeting her 18 year old friends(in my case).

Yes, you can call these types of men perverted, but it is only where you draw the line. 18 or 21 or 23 or 25. How old is old enough to go out with a 38 year old man? What if he was 40 or 45? Would that be worse?

I am just saying that it is all down to our opinions and beliefs and over the age of consent, it really should not matter what people do as far as this age difference goes.

There are many older people who get together and have large age differences, but somehow this is OK. Again, it is down to our opinions and beliefs that something is 'not right'. Anyone (a man) who thinks this, is probably lying to themselves and most men would love to be in this position if even for a short while.

[pitt_transplant]

Because most "old men" only like 21 yos for 2 things:

1 stupid and easy to dominate
2 stupid and easy to f

I don't think you should date anyone who is old enough to of created you. THAT is just too old. Someone is going to end up alone for a long time when the old dog dies. And she will be past her "prime" by then and will be having to pick through scraps. I don't think if you really cared about someone you would want them to be alone in old age or even older age when dating selections are crap. But the stupid 21 year old won't think like that...she will just gaggle on about his stupid arms like the db she is.

[2mares]

Originally Posted by yankeegirl313

I was sitting right in the middle of these two employees talking the other day. One just turned 21. I know because she was bragging about going down the river with her cooler attached.
Anyway, she told the girl next to me, that she is dating a guy who is 38.
The other girl sitting on the other side of me said,"What? Why? What does your parents say about it?" She said," Its ok. They love him!"
The other girl was just bringing on the negativity about his age, and trying to bring her down. I looked over the top of my glasses at her, as to say,"Its really NOYB."
The 21 yr. old started showing off pics on her phone, and he has arms the size of monsters!! Whhoo Hoooo.. Come to find out, he`s a cop.
Then, the other girl starts saying..."Well, you two make a cute couple, etc.." Ahhh huh!
I am sitting there thinking to myself, "How rude!" I mean, she seems happy, and content. Why would this stranger mouth off something like that?

I think it is just called conversation. If the girl was a stranger, why was the other girl telling her she was dating a 38 yr. old? I dont see anything wrong with the questions. One of my gfs started dating a guy her oldest sons age. Of course I had to give her some crap.