Happy Couple break up?? negative people

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by cwaggy

Yah, this hits HOME. That was my dear ex wife: Depending on someone (me) to "make" her happy. No such thing. Yet, whatever I did for her 24/7/365....it was just never enough. I told her she was too dependent on me and she needed to exert some independence and confidence - of course she threw a fit. Several times. The biggest one was when she got served! (papers that is).

Let me guess...she was "shocked" and played the victim to the hilt

[jeepgirl27]

Originally Posted by cwaggy

Yah, this hits HOME. That was my dear ex wife: Depending on someone (me) to "make" her happy. No such thing. Yet, whatever I did for her 24/7/365....it was just never enough. I told her she was too dependent on me and she needed to exert some independence and confidence - of course she threw a fit. Several times. The biggest one was when she got served! (papers that is).

She thought he was too insecure when he saw a pic of her friend on her lap top, her friend used to be overweight and he lost a lot of weight and looks good. she had it on her lap top way before she met him and he according to her got all jealous when he seen his pic..And remind you this is only a friend she also sent him the 2010 playboy playmate calander.
She wasnt jealous when he looked at it. But she said he was too jealous too insecure and too negative...Who wants to be around unhappy people

[andreaspercheron]

Your friend did the right thing. You can love someone, even be in love and the relationship still may not work. Having dated two men who suffered from depression, I know all too well the emotional toll it takes and it's not something you can tell them to knock it off either, it's mostly genetic and it's not a phase they are going through. People who suffer from depression will suffer all of their lives and probably have always suffered with it. For someone who doesn't suffer from depression it's really, really difficult to deal with and often it doesn't work out. The fact is, you cannot "make" someone happy. People are either happy souls or not. Depression can be a very dark place.