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How would you feel about this? Let's say she asks you if it's okay to bring her child with her, what would you say? Assuming you like her a lot and you've already clicked very well in so many areas.
I'm not sure why my friend thinks this is totally fine. She even had this wide, satisfied grin all over her face when talking about it. She says her date is very excited and looking forward to meet the child. I personally think the guy just felt awkward to say no, so he decided to go along with it.
Of course at that point I really didn't know what to say to her, so I kept quiet.
Uh...I would not trust a stranger that was "excited" to see my kid. Its not really emotionally healthy for the child either to have a revolving door daddy. She probably is just happy that she did not get rejected for already having a kid. I would advise her to really keep her eye on anyone that takes fast interest in her kids. If they are a pedo-freak thats how they start out. Then they "groom" the child to trust them and yadda yadda yadda...20 years of therapy for the kid.
I had a meet up with this guy and he called for an "official" date on the same weekend he had his kid and said it was okay they were just going to the movies. Coming from a divorced family I put myself in that kids shoes and did not want to go - not because he had a kid, but that was their time together and frankly the first date is not appropriate to introduce your kid to IMHO.
After being pestered and all, I went and totally regretted it. It just really made him look selfish to do that to his kid I don't care how okay he said the kid was with it as he walked me into my building and up two flights of stairs while he left the kid in the running car out in the cold, hoping to cop a first date kiss - selfish and inconsiderate as hell. Needless to say there wasn't a second date and he walked away thinking it was because he had a kid, when, indeed, it was his priorities when it came to his kid. Had he put that kid first and me second I would have had more respect for him.
Kids are not chiuauas, or accessories. Sorry but your friend has no sense.
What is the kid supposed to think? Rule of common sense single parenting is you never introduce your kids to dates until you have dated them long enough to know you want a relationship.
yeah, I think the guy is being nice. I think the first date is finding out if you click in person not a time to introduce children. I would think several weeks or months are more appropriate for introducing kids, I mean what if the guy turns out to be a weirdo and she exposed her kids to that OR what if the kids love him but she doesn't-then what is she going to do???
Totally and utterly insane on so many levels! Oh, well, recently I read a poll asking whether kids should be brought to bars... Since you can't really do what an adult would do there anyway, why not...?! Bring the milk shakes and the kiddos and date away!
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Since you can't really do what an adult would do there anyway, why not...?!
