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And BTW, Mercury Cougar is on target: Finding the humor in life is a major element of success.
And speaking of "cougars" ...
Although I am not physically deformed, I married a woman who, by all logic, should not have been attracted to me. She has a fetish for younger men, and she likes them relatively small and thin. I am older than her, taller than her, and I'm not as thin and muscular as she likes. But she fell madly in love with me anyway. (In other words, I married a cougar, even though I'm an older guy. Ha!)
So, I guess the moral of the story is: looks are not everything.
Well, you said you're on campus so you're probably under 25. There's a lot of superficial females on a college campus, and campus life is very clique-y.
Get your degree. The real world begins after you're out of college and in the workforce anyhow.
I think you see your ear deformity as being something insurmountable when it's your personality that is the first thing someone notices about you when they aren't superficial.
Don't waste your time with superficial people they are vain, insecure, and self absorbed.
Well, you said you're on campus so you're probably under 25. There's a lot of superficial females on a college campus, and campus life is very clique-y.
Get your degree. The real world begins after you're out of college and in the workforce anyhow.
I think you see your ear deformity as being something insurmountable when it's your personality that is the first thing someone notices about you when they aren't superficial.
Don't waste your time with superficial people they are vain, insecure, and self absorbed.
Who'd want to date that?
Well, did you notice Le Roi's very good question was never answered...
Well, you said you're on campus so you're probably under 25. There's a lot of superficial females on a college campus, and campus life is very clique-y.
Get your degree. The real world begins after you're out of college and in the workforce anyhow.
I think you see your ear deformity as being something insurmountable when it's your personality that is the first thing someone notices about you when they aren't superficial.
Don't waste your time with superficial people they are vain, insecure, and self absorbed.
Who'd want to date that?
Given what you say here, my point about the other men stands stronger then.
Hello I'm a 21 year old college and I was born with an ear deformity. I'm not able to attract young women at all. I never experienced the first kiss, date, and girlfriend. Regardless if a woman is a 10 or homly they have no interest in me. Women have no physical attraction towards me. Over 20 women have rejected in me a row.
To tell you a little bit about myself. I'm black. I'm 6'0 at 165 pounds with a little muscle tone. I wear glasses because I can't medically wear contacts. My hobbies are watching football, basketball, and video games. I'm an active member of two clubs on campus so some people know me around campus.
I was envisioning Quasimodo, but just an ear? Hmm grow long hair?
I don't think messed up ear(s) will turn a woman away. It must be something else.
There's so many reponses that I won't make a huge post quoting everyone. Secondly thanks for the responses.
I don't have problems with my personality. People say that I am funny, witty, smart, and fun to be around. I love watching sports and sometimes playing with friends.
I am a member of two clubs on campus. I have met people in clubs and started friendships. Women in these clubs have zero dating interst in me at all. Regardless of that I am very active in these clubs. I am the treassure in one club.
As far as the video game commenets please do not stereotype me as a guy who only stays at home to play video games. I like video games, but they do not consume my time. I only play games a few times a month at best. I am too busy having fun with friends to always play video games.
I am not expecting most women to ask me out on a date. I know some women do ask men out or at least say they are interested before the guy mentions it.
It's not just superfacial women who are rejecting me. All types of women reject me. Even the most unpopular and undesired women on campus will not give me the time of day. I'm black so I don't have the option of growing long hair. Dreads aren't an option because they look awful on me.
To the comments about getting a job after college and try to date. I will not be open to dating after getting a good job. I will not pay someone to date and love me. I rather die lonely then paying someone to be with.
OP- Honey, It's an ear!! I happen to have an ear fetish...only if they are "cold" but give me something different YOWZA! You are just different as we all are....who wants run ofthe mill?
Dude, seriously. Black guys can grow their hair long, I don't know if it would look good on you, but you don't have to choose between just dreds and a crew-cut. An Afro may be sort of retro, but, who cares if it makes *you* look good?
For that matter, maybe some facial hair would draw attention away from your ears?
And I didn't say get a job and then head for the Mustang Ranch. I said hit the gym, hit the books, build yourself up during your college years. Graduate with a good degree and get a good job.
OK *then* you get your ears "fixed" ie plastic surgery.
The above will result in well-founded self esteem, you will feel good about yourself because you have made something of yourself. That's not to say you are a nobody now, but your lack of self-confidence is strong and obvious over the internet, it has to be more obvious in person.
Like I posted elsewhere, even if you are, right now, to be blunt, ugly - if you hit the gym and get built and ripped, if you optimize your hairdo, including facial hair, and get some good clothes - I mean even if you are starting out as a "2", you will be up to about a "7" on most women's radar.
You can't get built in 3 days or even 3 weeks, but after 3 months you should see noticable improvements.
But like all my ideas this seems to involve serious work so you probably wont' be interested.
And, seriously, dude, big ears or protruding ears don't really qualify as a "deformity" - The Elephant Man was deformed. You just have big ears. Maybe you should do some volunteer work in a hospital, particularly one that deals with wounded warriors coming back from the Sandbox. That would maybe put your situation in perspective.
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If I were a man with such ears, I'd grow some longish hair.
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