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Old 10-14-2010, 05:02 PM
 
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OK I was a fool, but I don't think people should misrepresent their cleanliness!
That is confusing to me. Does this mean that he used to be clean but now he isn't ? A lot of hygeine problems are caused by depression. If you really love him, like you say you do, get him to go see a therapist.

Here's the deal. You picked this guy based on what you knew about him, and in the process you fell in love with him (not clear what that means because I thought love would make you stay with somebody regardless of correctable problems of theirs). Everybody has faults.

Rather than breaking up, I would try to get at the root of the hygeine problem. Again, I would suspect that most hygeine problems and laziness problems are caused by depression. Depression is treatable. I would recommend talking with him honestly about the hygeine problem. This may very well shock him into getting treatment, a kind of rock bottom moment for him.

Of course everything I'm saying is based on your claim that you really love him. If you don't really love him, then all bets are off. Dump his lazy behind. You don't need to deal with this baggage. Find somebody better.
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Old 10-14-2010, 05:13 PM
 
Location: John & Ken-ville
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Well, some Europeans don't use deo on their armpits.

That's something I had to teach my dear husband. He'd shower so I knew he wasn't filthy. He never used it before he met me.

Apparently it's very American.

It wasn't a deal breaker but maybe would have been if he put up a fuss about using it every day.
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Old 10-14-2010, 05:14 PM
 
Location: AZ
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"not brushing teeth" or not cleaning up well after the restroom and that other gross stuff.
Deal killer.
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:16 PM
 
Location: Neither here nor there
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Poor hygiene........depressed or not.......deal breaker.

EWWWWWWW!!!!
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Old 10-14-2010, 07:07 PM
 
Location: Southern Oregon
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To answer the question in your post #10, I would call off the wedding, then tell them why. That is something I just could not and would not handle. No matter what.
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Old 10-14-2010, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL (Northside)
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If a woman came at me smelling like kitty litter, she would get the boot. Hygiene is of the utmost importance which is why after a good workout, I hit the showers for a nice, hot shower with body wash. Smell good after that
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Old 10-14-2010, 07:53 PM
 
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Yes, but they might hold out for a year or so until you are hooked, then what? Damn! You already asked them to marry you. Oh well, my misfortune. Just wondered if anyone else ever encountered this?
Hold out how? I can't possibly imagine how you would get close enough to someone to fall in love with them, without learning about their personal hygiene habits. It simply would not be possible for me.
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Old 10-14-2010, 09:26 PM
 
Location: state of procrastination
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I shower about once every 1.5-3 days. And I shave maybe 1x/month and never use deodorant. Nobody's ever been grossed out by me, except maybe myself when I reach the 3 day mark.
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Old 10-15-2010, 04:50 AM
 
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Well if someone is grossed out by my hygenie habits, I would thank them for dumping me. I don't want to gross anyone out. Likewise, if someone is so gross that I can't get near them because of the rotting teeth/body odor, I would say adios.
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Old 10-15-2010, 07:18 AM
 
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I shower about once every 1.5-3 days. And I shave maybe 1x/month and never use deodorant. Nobody's ever been grossed out by me, except maybe myself when I reach the 3 day mark.
That grosses me out and I don't even know you.
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