Why do last minute dates usually end this way?

[CruisingUSA]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

I think the root of the entire problem lies in the choice of Dave & Buster's as a meet-up place. Seriously.

Think about it - you're going to a place where drunken people are re-living their recently-departed childhood - screaming and crying and running around like a bunch of unsupervised brats.

LOL, omg I was thinking the same thing! Although I had fun playing Fast and Furious and a few other games...I found it to be extremely juvenile. We played 2 games where for 20 minutes we were shooting terrorist jumping from behind stuff. But, it was HIS idea to take me there. I wanted to meet him at a bar but he didn't like the bar scene.

Anyhow...he ended up texting me the next afternoon asking how I was, so it had NOTHING to do with ME. Mind you, I didn't tell him I was leaving town...but truth is, I actually was leaving town the next day. So by the time he texted me, I was 50 miles out of town. I told him that I really didn't get the impression he was interested, because when he left all he said was, "well, lets hangout again sometime." Then he ask me for a pic to get him thru his workday

Originally Posted by claud605

Meeting up with someone at the last minute (and IMO last minute means making a date anytime that very day) means one of two things:

1. He had something better to do and it fell through.
or
2. He has something better to do and it starts later on that night.

Either way, aren't you worth more than that?

I personally should have known. His profile was listed in California, yet he lives in Denver. When I asked him about it, thinking he was visiting...he says, "oh, some people act really relentless about meeting up, so I decide I rather just message people than for them to message me.

It just didn't sound right, and since he couldn't ask me out afterwards I really wasn't interested

[nighthouse66]

uh, why do you think a guy would meet you at 11 pm who had never met you before? do you think he walks to talk about your childhood, or just chat, get to know one another? i don't think i would be remiss nor cynical in saying that alot of people seem to be missing the underlying assumption of the guy here. he thinks he was gonna get some. why oh why oh why would you be putting together last minute dates from someone you met on the internet on a friday night? i don't mean to be mean or anything, but if you were a friend of mine in real life i would tell you the same thing. this is NOT going to give any favorable impression of you to anyone you meet under these circumstances. its like you were setting up a booty call. you may not think that way, but the guy does. i mean, a chick he never met, wants to meet him late night, on a friday, at the last minute. this is NOT a great beginning. this is a booty-call-structure. this smells like desperation on top of it.

what are you searching for? Mr. Goodbar? do you want a relationship, or are you too busy for long term stuff and are just trying to have fun? i mean, there is nothing wrong with that, but i am afraid you may be cheapening yourself in your methods of doing so. maybe if we knew exactly what you were hoping to get from these transactions it would help us understand. if you are wanting something deeper and long term you shouldn't choose fly-by-night methods in getting there. its a heartbreak waiting to happen.

i hope this doesn't sound harsh- i am not trying to be a smartass and dismissive like people on here often can be- but maybe you are hurting yourself needlessly, like us women often do, and it doesn't have to be that way.

[WannaliveinGreenville]

When someone calls you last minute ( usually it's booty call ) just say " No sorry , I have plans "

Don't let someone disrespect you like that.

You are too important to go out last minute with someone who obviously was killing time....

Next time first date always make it SHORT. That way if he sux you can get out of it early !