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Hi, im new. I'll make it straight forward, i am looking for some people whom have the same problems as i have now. I am 26 years old, got a boyfriend almost 2 years been together..the thing is, why i am so very affraid of getting marry, i dont have any plan..i just drown my self busy at work. I foind my self really got exhausted by seeking the "husband" thingy. Even though i'm still in a very young age i dont feel excited with starting new life with someone, i did enjoy staying together but not in a marriage condition. Am i getting numb?my bf asks me to plan to marry within the next one ot two years, but..i feel so tasteless,feel so cold with this kind of question. What should i do, i have a deep trauma with the previous relationship, i really dont trust any man to be my life partner..i am really feel suffered with this way of thinking, my bf loves me very much and i loved him back..we just not in the same mission. I need help desperately. thanks for taking your time read my post. Have a good day.
Hi, im new. I'll make it straight forward, i am looking for some people whom have the same problems as i have now. I am 26 years old, got a boyfriend almost 2 years been together..the thing is, why i am so very affraid of getting marry, i dont have any plan..i just drown my self busy at work. I foind my self really got exhausted by seeking the "husband" thingy. Even though i'm still in a very young age i dont feel excited with starting new life with someone, i did enjoy staying together but not in a marriage condition. Am i getting numb?my bf asks me to plan to marry within the next one ot two years, but..i feel so tasteless,feel so cold with this kind of question. What should i do, i have a deep trauma with the previous relationship, i really dont trust any man to be my life partner..i am really feel suffered with this way of thinking, my bf loves me very much and i loved him back..we just not in the same mission. I need help desperately. thanks for taking your time read my post. Have a good day.
Are you Indian? Well, you don't have to rush things into marriage. Past is history. Why interfere you past history with this guy?
yes, what everyone else has said. Don't marry him until you are ready. Maybe the love you have for him is not the love you feel you should have for a husband. Trust your instincts. When it's right you will know, and there will be no doubt.
Do not agree to marry him right now. You seem to know your not ready to marry him. For one, you say you have an issue with trust. You certainly do not want to marry someone knowing there is an issue of trust.
Also, you said you have had a lot of relationship trauma in your past, which could be contributing to the trust. You may need more time to heal from your past before your ready to consider a marriage. It could also be impacting your trust in this relationship. I would consider trying to heal from that trauma, and doing so with professional help if you keep struggling with the past!
You don't have to be married under anyone's timeline but be prepared if your bf decides to move on. It's not fair to hold him at bay over your past relationships. That's your problem to deal with, not his.
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thanks for taking your time read my post. Have a good day.
